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Sunday, December 29, 2013
Stripping in front of me! And knowing the blinking camera is on him!
27 Dec 2013 Friday at my house
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Friday, December 20, 2013
I hate it when "friends" make fun of you in front of other people to make themselves look cool.
I hate it when "friends" make fun of you in front of other people to make themselves look cool.
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Thursday, December 19, 2013
Black Dog
I learned that it doesn't matter who you are. Mood swings affect millions and millions of people. It is, an equal opportunity mongrel. I also learned there's no silver bullet or magic pill. Medication may help some, but others may need a different approach altogether. I also learnt, that being emotionally genuine and authentic to those who are close to you, can mean absolute game changer.
Most importantly, I learnt not to be afraid of the "black dog" and I taught him a few new tricks of my own. The more tired and stressed you are, the louder 'he' barks.
So it's important to learn how to quiet your mind.
It's been clinically proven, that regular exercise can be use an effective treatment for treating mild to moderate depression as anti-depressants, so go for a walk or a run and leave them right behind.
Keep a mood journal. Getting your thoughts on paper can be cathartic, and often insightful.
Also keep track of the things you had to be grateful for.
The most important thing to remember is that: no matter how. bad. it gets, if you take the right steps, talk to the right people, black dog days Can and Will pass.
I wouldn't say I'm ungrateful for the mood swing. He's been an incredible teacher. He forced me to reevaluate, and simplify my life.
I learnt that rather then running away from my problems, it's better to embrace them.
The mood swings may Always be part of my life. But he'd never be the beast that he was. We have an understanding. I've learnt through knowledge, patience, discipline and humor, the worst disorder can be made to heal.
If you're in difficulty, never be afraid to ask for help.
There is absolutely no shame doing so. The only shame is missing out on life.
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Most importantly, I learnt not to be afraid of the "black dog" and I taught him a few new tricks of my own. The more tired and stressed you are, the louder 'he' barks.
So it's important to learn how to quiet your mind.
It's been clinically proven, that regular exercise can be use an effective treatment for treating mild to moderate depression as anti-depressants, so go for a walk or a run and leave them right behind.
Keep a mood journal. Getting your thoughts on paper can be cathartic, and often insightful.
Also keep track of the things you had to be grateful for.
The most important thing to remember is that: no matter how. bad. it gets, if you take the right steps, talk to the right people, black dog days Can and Will pass.
I wouldn't say I'm ungrateful for the mood swing. He's been an incredible teacher. He forced me to reevaluate, and simplify my life.
I learnt that rather then running away from my problems, it's better to embrace them.
The mood swings may Always be part of my life. But he'd never be the beast that he was. We have an understanding. I've learnt through knowledge, patience, discipline and humor, the worst disorder can be made to heal.
If you're in difficulty, never be afraid to ask for help.
There is absolutely no shame doing so. The only shame is missing out on life.
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Child Abuse Charges For Muslim Mother Who Burned Daughter After She Resisted Arranged Marriage
NBC Miami News Article; Child Abuse Charges for Hollywood Mother Who Burned Teen Daughter Over Arranged Marriage -
A South Florida mother who used a knife to burn her teen daughter after the girl resisted her parents’ wishes to marry her cousin in an arranged marriage is facing child abuse charges, Hollywood Police said Tuesday.
Sahar Thabit, 35, was arrested Friday and is facing three counts of child abuse on her 17-year-old daughter, according to a Hollywood Police arrest affidavit.
According to the affidavit, the abuse began in early January when Thabit used a stove to heat up the metal on the knife and burn her daughter’s arm three times, twice on her left forearm and once on her upper right arm.
“I swear to God I didn’t see anything,” the victim’s grandfather, Ali Alomari, told NBC 6 outside the family’s home Tuesday.
The burns caused permanent disfigurement, the report noted.
A friend of the girl reported the abuse to a school administrator, who later called police, the affidavit said.
According to the friend, the teen said her parents became upset because she didn’t want to marry her cousin, but wanted to marry a boy in Yemen she had met on the Internet, the affidavit said.
The daughter later told police that she had been talking to the boy in Yemen through the Internet, even though it’s not allowed in the family’s religion.
The girl’s friend also said the parents verbally and mentally abused their daughter calling her a whore and slut, the affidavit said. The friend also said the girl had attempted suicide over the incident, the affidavit said.
When the victim’s father was questioned by detectives, he claimed she had been burned by a stove until it was pointed out that the burns were in three different areas, the affidavit said. The father then asked for an attorney, the affidavit said.
The girl’s grandfather gave the same explanation Tuesday, saying, “She burned herself in the stove.”
After interviewing witnesses and the victim, police determined Thabit had placed the knife on her daughter’s arms, the affidavit said.
Detectives weren’t able to interview Thabit because she only speaks Arabic, the affidavit said. She was arrested and later released on bond, and it’s unknown whether she has an attorney.
The girl’s father told NBC 6 over the phone that the family is going through difficult times with the allegations and said he had no comment.
Lenore Walker, a psychology professor at Nova Southeastern University, said the alleged abuse in the case is similar to an honor killing.
”The rationale is that you’re shaming your family by getting involved with a boy or a man who is unacceptable for whatever reason. In this particular case, it’s because she was promised to another man and so she talked on the Internet, not even face to face,” Walker said.
Source: NBC Miami
March 20, 20131 Reply
Oklahoma Mother Tries To Sell Her Two Young Children On Facebook So She Could Bail Out Her Boyfriend
Misty VanHorn, is a 22-year-old deadbeat mother from Sallisaw, Oklahoma. She is accused of trying to sell two of her children for $5,000 so she could waddle her way down to prison and bail her criminal boyfriend out of jail.
Apparently, the mother’s two-year-old was only worth $1,000 while her four-year-old was worth a staggering $4,000. Maybe it was a buy one get one 75% off sale?
The mother-of-two contacted a woman in Fort Smith via Facebook and talked about selling the kids. The woman, who has not been named, contacted the Oklahoma Department of Human Services when she realized that VanHorn was not pulling her leg. The ODHS then notified Sallisaw Police who conducted their own investigation.
Neighbours of VanHorn said she had been begging for money to bail out her boyfriend, who was arrested for unknown reasons.
‘She was going door to door, here to all the way across town asking everybody for money to get him out,’ said Tony Mosby, a neighbor of VanHorn.
Authorities confirmed that the state took custody of the children.
VanHorn is being held on $40,000 bond. That’s 7 times more than what she thought both of her children were worth.
March 11, 20131 Reply
Natisha Hillard Accused Of Selling Baby Daughter To Christopher Bour So He Could Make Child Porn (HUFFINGTONPOST)
A 24-year-old Indiana woman allegedly sold her toddler to man for use in child pornography
Authorities have also charged her business partner, Christopher Bour, 39, with buying a child to produce child pornography, producing child pornography and possessing child pornography featuring a minor younger than 12
The FBI began investigating Bour after being alerted by an unnamed masseuse who said Bour had texted her about his intentions to sexually abuse the child
Pictured; Natisha Hillard (left) sold her child too Christopher Bour (right) before FBI were alerted by an anonymous tipster who overheard what was going on.
Click Huffington Post to read the full article.
March 10, 20133 Replies
Mother who called herself a ”monster” in court is sentenced to 99 years for beating her daughter into coma and gluing the tot’s hands to the wall.
Elizabeth Escalona (left) was sentenced to 99 years for the brutal beating of her toddler daughter (right.)
10/12/12 Dallas, TX →After 5-days of gruelling testimony, Texas mother, Elizabeth Escalona, 23, sat tearfully in court today as she was sentenced by Judge Larry Mitchell to serve 99 years in prison for the savage torture-beating of her two-year old child.
”You savagely beat your daughter to the edge of death,” said the Judge.
In 2011, Elizabeth became so frustrated with her daughter (who isn’t being named due to legal reasons) during potty-training that she glued the child’s hands to the wall and brutally beat her.
Two of Escalona’s other children revealed in court today that their mother kicked their little sister in her stomach and hit her with a milk-jug before gluing her hands to a wall. She also dragged her (although uncertain if she was dragged by the hair.) Some skin had been torn off her little hands. She was hospitalized and in a coma.
Prosecutor Eren Price showed Escalona photo’s of her child’s injuries and asked her if she was a monster. ”A monster did this.” Escalona shook her head and replied a tearful ”Yes.”
Photo’s showed bruises and marks all around the childs little body were also shown in court.
She hit her with large items including a jug and dragged her across the floor.
Photo’s of the toddlers bloody hands after they were glued to a wall were shown in court by prosecutors.
LIAR: words shown on an overhead display were written by prosecutor Eren Price, (left) and were shown in the Dallas County Courtroom as Escalona responded to multiple questions in Yesterdays court-proceedings.
Escalona pleaded with Judge Mitchell for leniency, blaming her ‘black-out’ on childhood sexual-abuse and saying she did not remember the incident that unfolded last year. She said she didn’t remember where she got the glue or why she glued her toddler’s hands to the wall nor did she remember dragging her daughter, throwing things at her or kicking her in the stomach. Overall, she claimed she didn’t remember beating the poor girl into a coma because she wouldn’t potty-train correctly/quickly. Escalona continued to put on the ”water-works” but Price wasn’t buying it and showed her no mercy calling her a ”liar.”
Cross-examination by the prosecutors pointed out that Escalona was a consistently abusive mother who did drugs and beat her children. Proving she lied once again. They also showed she lied when Price was calling her a monter, Escalona was agreeing, calling herself a monter, contradicting her earlier statements of not ”remembering.” ”I hit her, I kicked her constantly, and she didn’t deserve that,’ said Escalona. ”Only a monster does that.”
Judge Mitchell, while agreeing that Escalona may have been sexually abused growing up, that it is no excuse for abuse and Judge Mitchell said the simple fact remained, the vicious assault on your child.
‘You savagely beat your child to the edge of death,’ he said.
Escalona was sentenced to ninety years in prison and must serve at-least thirty to consider parole. Her loved ones cried out, some hanging their heads down in grief and disbelief. The mother of three surprisingly, showed very little emotion considering her theatrics threw-out the trail.
Her children are now in custody of the state and will hopefully get past the trauma they endured and grow up to be everything Elizabeth Escalona is NOT.
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Child Abuse Charges For Muslim Mother Who Burned Daughter After She Resisted Arranged Marriage
NBC Miami News Article; Child Abuse Charges for Hollywood Mother Who Burned Teen Daughter Over Arranged Marriage -
A South Florida mother who used a knife to burn her teen daughter after the girl resisted her parents’ wishes to marry her cousin in an arranged marriage is facing child abuse charges, Hollywood Police said Tuesday.
Sahar Thabit, 35, was arrested Friday and is facing three counts of child abuse on her 17-year-old daughter, according to a Hollywood Police arrest affidavit.
According to the affidavit, the abuse began in early January when Thabit used a stove to heat up the metal on the knife and burn her daughter’s arm three times, twice on her left forearm and once on her upper right arm.
“I swear to God I didn’t see anything,” the victim’s grandfather, Ali Alomari, told NBC 6 outside the family’s home Tuesday.
The burns caused permanent disfigurement, the report noted.
A friend of the girl reported the abuse to a school administrator, who later called police, the affidavit said.
According to the friend, the teen said her parents became upset because she didn’t want to marry her cousin, but wanted to marry a boy in Yemen she had met on the Internet, the affidavit said.
The daughter later told police that she had been talking to the boy in Yemen through the Internet, even though it’s not allowed in the family’s religion.
The girl’s friend also said the parents verbally and mentally abused their daughter calling her a whore and slut, the affidavit said. The friend also said the girl had attempted suicide over the incident, the affidavit said.
When the victim’s father was questioned by detectives, he claimed she had been burned by a stove until it was pointed out that the burns were in three different areas, the affidavit said. The father then asked for an attorney, the affidavit said.
The girl’s grandfather gave the same explanation Tuesday, saying, “She burned herself in the stove.”
After interviewing witnesses and the victim, police determined Thabit had placed the knife on her daughter’s arms, the affidavit said.
Detectives weren’t able to interview Thabit because she only speaks Arabic, the affidavit said. She was arrested and later released on bond, and it’s unknown whether she has an attorney.
The girl’s father told NBC 6 over the phone that the family is going through difficult times with the allegations and said he had no comment.
Lenore Walker, a psychology professor at Nova Southeastern University, said the alleged abuse in the case is similar to an honor killing.
”The rationale is that you’re shaming your family by getting involved with a boy or a man who is unacceptable for whatever reason. In this particular case, it’s because she was promised to another man and so she talked on the Internet, not even face to face,” Walker said.
Source: NBC Miami
March 20, 20131 Reply
Oklahoma Mother Tries To Sell Her Two Young Children On Facebook So She Could Bail Out Her Boyfriend
Misty VanHorn, is a 22-year-old deadbeat mother from Sallisaw, Oklahoma. She is accused of trying to sell two of her children for $5,000 so she could waddle her way down to prison and bail her criminal boyfriend out of jail.
Apparently, the mother’s two-year-old was only worth $1,000 while her four-year-old was worth a staggering $4,000. Maybe it was a buy one get one 75% off sale?
The mother-of-two contacted a woman in Fort Smith via Facebook and talked about selling the kids. The woman, who has not been named, contacted the Oklahoma Department of Human Services when she realized that VanHorn was not pulling her leg. The ODHS then notified Sallisaw Police who conducted their own investigation.
Neighbours of VanHorn said she had been begging for money to bail out her boyfriend, who was arrested for unknown reasons.
‘She was going door to door, here to all the way across town asking everybody for money to get him out,’ said Tony Mosby, a neighbor of VanHorn.
Authorities confirmed that the state took custody of the children.
VanHorn is being held on $40,000 bond. That’s 7 times more than what she thought both of her children were worth.
March 11, 20131 Reply
Natisha Hillard Accused Of Selling Baby Daughter To Christopher Bour So He Could Make Child Porn (HUFFINGTONPOST)
A 24-year-old Indiana woman allegedly sold her toddler to man for use in child pornography
Authorities have also charged her business partner, Christopher Bour, 39, with buying a child to produce child pornography, producing child pornography and possessing child pornography featuring a minor younger than 12
The FBI began investigating Bour after being alerted by an unnamed masseuse who said Bour had texted her about his intentions to sexually abuse the child
Pictured; Natisha Hillard (left) sold her child too Christopher Bour (right) before FBI were alerted by an anonymous tipster who overheard what was going on.
Click Huffington Post to read the full article.
March 10, 20133 Replies
Mother who called herself a ”monster” in court is sentenced to 99 years for beating her daughter into coma and gluing the tot’s hands to the wall.
Elizabeth Escalona (left) was sentenced to 99 years for the brutal beating of her toddler daughter (right.)
10/12/12 Dallas, TX →After 5-days of gruelling testimony, Texas mother, Elizabeth Escalona, 23, sat tearfully in court today as she was sentenced by Judge Larry Mitchell to serve 99 years in prison for the savage torture-beating of her two-year old child.
”You savagely beat your daughter to the edge of death,” said the Judge.
In 2011, Elizabeth became so frustrated with her daughter (who isn’t being named due to legal reasons) during potty-training that she glued the child’s hands to the wall and brutally beat her.
Two of Escalona’s other children revealed in court today that their mother kicked their little sister in her stomach and hit her with a milk-jug before gluing her hands to a wall. She also dragged her (although uncertain if she was dragged by the hair.) Some skin had been torn off her little hands. She was hospitalized and in a coma.
Prosecutor Eren Price showed Escalona photo’s of her child’s injuries and asked her if she was a monster. ”A monster did this.” Escalona shook her head and replied a tearful ”Yes.”
Photo’s showed bruises and marks all around the childs little body were also shown in court.
She hit her with large items including a jug and dragged her across the floor.
Photo’s of the toddlers bloody hands after they were glued to a wall were shown in court by prosecutors.
LIAR: words shown on an overhead display were written by prosecutor Eren Price, (left) and were shown in the Dallas County Courtroom as Escalona responded to multiple questions in Yesterdays court-proceedings.
Escalona pleaded with Judge Mitchell for leniency, blaming her ‘black-out’ on childhood sexual-abuse and saying she did not remember the incident that unfolded last year. She said she didn’t remember where she got the glue or why she glued her toddler’s hands to the wall nor did she remember dragging her daughter, throwing things at her or kicking her in the stomach. Overall, she claimed she didn’t remember beating the poor girl into a coma because she wouldn’t potty-train correctly/quickly. Escalona continued to put on the ”water-works” but Price wasn’t buying it and showed her no mercy calling her a ”liar.”
Cross-examination by the prosecutors pointed out that Escalona was a consistently abusive mother who did drugs and beat her children. Proving she lied once again. They also showed she lied when Price was calling her a monter, Escalona was agreeing, calling herself a monter, contradicting her earlier statements of not ”remembering.” ”I hit her, I kicked her constantly, and she didn’t deserve that,’ said Escalona. ”Only a monster does that.”
Judge Mitchell, while agreeing that Escalona may have been sexually abused growing up, that it is no excuse for abuse and Judge Mitchell said the simple fact remained, the vicious assault on your child.
‘You savagely beat your child to the edge of death,’ he said.
Escalona was sentenced to ninety years in prison and must serve at-least thirty to consider parole. Her loved ones cried out, some hanging their heads down in grief and disbelief. The mother of three surprisingly, showed very little emotion considering her theatrics threw-out the trail.
Her children are now in custody of the state and will hopefully get past the trauma they endured and grow up to be everything Elizabeth Escalona is NOT.
October 13, 20126 Replies
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Keeping a journal can be cathartic, and insightful.
Catharsis
For other uses, see Catharsis (disambiguation).
Catharsis (from the Greek κάθαρσις katharsis meaning "purification" or "cleansing") is the purification and purgation of emotions—especially pity and fear—through art[1] or any extreme change in emotion that results in renewal and restoration.[2][3] It is a metaphor originally used by Aristotle in the Poetics to describe the effects of tragedy on the spectator.[4][5]
Dramatic usesEdit
Catharsis is a term in dramatic art that describes the effect of tragedy (or comedy and quite possibly other artistic forms)[6] principally on the audience (although some have speculated on characters in the drama as well). Nowhere does Aristotle explain the meaning of "catharsis" as he is using that term in the definition of tragedy in the Poetics (1449b21-28). G.F. Else argues that traditional, widely held interpretations of catharsis as "purification " or "purgation" have no basis in the text of the Poetics, but are derived from the use of catharsis in other Aristotelian and non-Aristotelian contexts," Leon Golden writes.[7] For this reason, a number of diverse interpretations of the meaning of this term have arisen. D.W. Lucas (Aristotle: Poetics, Oxford, 1968)[8] in an authoritative edition of the Poetics comprehensively covers the various nuances inherent in the meaning of the term in an Appendix devoted to "Pity, Fear, and Katharsis". Lucas (pp. 276–79) recognizes the possibility of catharsis bearing some aspect of the meaning of "purification, purgation, and 'intellectual clarification'" although his discussion of these terms is not always, or perhaps often, in the precise form with which other influential scholars have treated them. Lucas himself does not accept any one of these interpretations as his own but adopts a rather different one based on "the Greek doctrine of Humours" which has not received wide subsequent acceptance. Purgation and purification, used in previous centuries, as the common interpretations of catharsis are still in wide use today.[9] More recently, in the twentieth century, the interpretation of catharsis as "intellectual clarification" has arisen as a rival to the older views in describing the effect of catharsis on members of the audience.
Purgation and purification
In his works prior to Poetics, Aristotle had used the term catharsis purely in its medical sense (usually referring to the evacuation of the katamenia—the menstrual fluid or other reproductive material).[10] Here, however, he employs it as a medical metaphor. F. L. Lucas maintains, therefore, that purification and cleansing are not proper translations for catharsis; that it should rather be rendered as purgation. "It is the human soul that is purged of its excessive passions."[11] Gerald F. Else, "Aristotle's Poetics: The Argument, Cambridge, Mass., 1957, p.440 made the following argument against the "purgation" theory: "It presupposes that we come to the tragic drama (unconsciously, if you will) as patients to be cured, relieved, restored to psychic health. But there is not a word to support this in the "Poetics", not a hint that the end of drama is to cure or alleviate pathological states. On the contrary it is evident in every line of the work that Aristotle is presupposing "normal" auditors, normal states of mind and feeling, normal emotional and aesthetic experience."
Lessing sidesteps the medical attribution. He translates catharsis as a purification, an experience that brings pity and fear into their proper balance: "In real life," he explained, "men are sometimes too much addicted to pity or fear, sometimes too little; tragedy brings them back to a virtuous and happy mean."[12] Tragedy is then a corrective; through watching tragedy, the audience learns how to feel these emotions at proper levels.
Intellectual clarification
In the twentieth century something like a paradigm shift took place in the interpretation of catharsis with a number of scholars contributing to the argument in support of the intellectual clarification concept. The following works can be usefully consulted in this regard: L. Golden, "Aristotle on Tragic and Comic Mimesis," Atlanta, 1992, S. Halliwell, "Aristotle's Poetics," London, 1986, D. Keesey, "On Some Recent Interpretations of Catharsis, "The Classical World", (1979) 72.4, 193-205. The clarification theory of catharsis would be fully consistent, as other interpretations are not, with Aristotle's argument in chapter 4 of the Poetics (1448b4-17) that the essential pleasure of mimesis is the intellectual pleasure of "learning and inference".
It is generally understood that Aristotle's theory of mimesis and catharsis are responses to Plato's negative view of artistic mimesis on an audience. Plato argued that the most common forms of artistic mimesis were designed to evoke from an audience powerful emotions such as pity, fear, and ridicule which override the rational control that defines the highest level of our humanity and lead us to wallow unacceptably in orgies of emotion and passion. Aristotle's concept of catharsis, in all of the major senses attributed to it, contradicts Plato's view by providing a mechanism that generates the rational control of irrational emotions. All of the commonly held interpretations of catharsis, purgation, purification, and clarification are considered by most scholars to represent a homeopathic process in which pity and fear accomplish the catharsis of emotions like themselves. For an alternate view of catharsis as an allopathic process in which pity and fear produce a catharsis of emotions unlike pity and fear, see E. Belfiore, "Tragic Pleasures: Aristotle on Plot and Emotion." Princeton, 1992, 260 ff.
Achieving catharsis in literary analysis
Catharsis can only be achieved by an accurate and persuasive analysis of character and action in a drama. Below is such an analysis by the distinguished British scholar E.R. Dodds directed at the character of Oedipus in the paradigmatic Aristotelian tragedy, Oedipus Rex:
"...what fascinates us is the spectacle of a man freely choosing, from the highest motives a series of actions which lead to his own ruin. Oedipus might have left the plague to take its course; but pity for the sufferings of his people compelled him to consult Delphi. When Apollo's word came back, he might still have left the murder of Laius uninvestigated; but piety and justice required him to act. He need not have forced the truth from the reluctant Theban herdsman; but because he cannot rest content with a lie, he must tear away the last veil from the illusion in which he has lived so long. Teiresias, Jocasta, the herdsman, each in turn tries to stop him, but in vain; he must read the last riddle, the riddle of his own life. The immediate cause of Oedipus' ruin is not "fate or "the gods"—no oracle said that he must discover the truth—and still less does it lie in his own weakness; what causes his ruin is his own strength and courage, his loyalty to Thebes, and his loyalty to the truth." (E.R. Dodds, "On Misunderstanding the Oedipus Rex," "Greece and Rome 13 ((1966) p.43."
The cogent logic of Dodds' analysis makes it possible for us to argue for the existence of a catharsis for diverse reasons based on any of the three major interpretations we have discussed: purgation, purification, intellectual clarification.
There have been, for political or aesthetic reasons, deliberate attempts made to subvert the effect of catharsis in theatre. For example, Bertolt Brecht viewed catharsis as a pap (pablum) for the bourgeois theatre audience, and designed dramas which left significant emotions unresolved, intending to force social action upon the audience. Brecht reasoned that the absence of a cathartic resolution would require the audience to take political action in the real world, in order to fill the emotional gap they had experienced vicariously. This technique can be seen as early as his agit-prop play The Measures Taken.[citation needed]
"Catharsis" before tragedyEdit
Catharsis before the sixth-century rise of tragedy is, for the Western World, essentially a historical footnote to the Aristotelian conception. The practice of purification had not yet appeared in Homer, as later Greek commentators noted:[13] the Aithiopis, an epic set in the Trojan War cycle, narrates the purification of Achilles after his murder of Thersites. Catharsis describes the result of measures taken to cleanse away blood-guilt—"blood is purified through blood" (Burkert 1992:56), a process in the development of Hellenistic culture in which the oracle of Delphi took a prominent role. The classic example—Orestes—belongs to tragedy, but the procedure given by Aeschylus is ancient: the blood of a sacrificed piglet is allowed to wash over the blood-polluted man, and running water washes away the blood.[14] The identical ritual is represented, Burkert informs us (1992:57), on a krater found at Canicattini, wherein it is shown being employed to cure the daughters of Proetus from their madness, caused by some ritual transgression. To the question of whether the ritual obtains atonement for the subject, or just healing, Burkert answers: "To raise the question is to see the irrelevance of this distinction" (1992:57).
Therapeutic usesEdit
In psychology, the term was first employed by Sigmund Freud's colleague Josef Breuer (1842–1925), who developed a "cathartic" treatment using hypnosis for persons suffering from hysterical symptoms. While under hypnosis, Breuer's patients were able to recall traumatic experiences, and through the process of expressing the original emotions that had been repressed and forgotten, they were relieved of their symptoms. Catharsis was also central to Freud's concept of psychoanalysis, but he replaced hypnosis with free association.[15]
The term catharsis has also been adopted by modern psychotherapy, particularly Freudian psychoanalysis, to describe the act of expressing, or more accurately, experiencing the deep emotions often associated with events in the individual's past which had originally been repressed or ignored, and had never been adequately addressed or experienced.
There has been much debate about the use of catharsis in the reduction of anger. Some scholars believe that "blowing off steam" may reduce physiological stress in the short term, but this reduction may act as a reward mechanism, reinforcing the behavior and promoting future outbursts.[16][17][18][19] However, other studies have suggested that using violent media may decrease hostility under periods of stress.[20] Interestingly, there's no "one size fits all" definition of "catharsis",[21] and this doesn't allow a clear definition of its use in therapeutical terms.
See alsoEdit
Abreaction
Closure (psychology)
Kenosis
Kairosis
NotesEdit
"catharsis," Merriam-Webster's Encyclopedia of Literature, Merriam-Webster, 1995, p. 217.
A. Berndtson (1975), p. 235: "The theory of catharsis has a disarming affinity with the expressional theory, since it emphasizes emotion, asserts a change in emotion as a result of aesthetic operations, and concludes on a note of freedom in relation to the emotion".
R. Levin (2003), p. 42: "Catharsis in Shakespearean tragedy involves ... some kind of restoration of order and a renewal or enhancement of our positive feelings for the hero".
Aristotle, Poetics, 1449b
"catharsis (criticism)" -- Encyclopedia Britannica
Thomas Scheff PhD Professor Emeritus of Sociology and Anthropology (1979). Catharsis in Healing, Ritual, and Drama. University of California, USA. ISBN 0-595-15237-6.
Golden, Leon. "Catharsis". Transactions and Proceedings of the American Philological Association 93: 51–60.
Lucas, DW (1977). Aristotle: Poetics. Oxford University Press, USA. ISBN 978-0198140245.
Michael P. Nichols, Ph D.; Melvin Zax, Ph.D. (8 June 1977). Catharsis in Psychotherapy. John Wiley & Sons Inc, New York. ISBN 978-0470990643.
Belifiore, Elizabeth S. Tragic Pleasures: Aristotle on Plot and Emotion, page 300. Princeton UP, 1992
Lucas, F.L. Tragedy in Relation to Aristotle's Poetics, page 24
Lucas, F.L. Tragedy in Relation to Aristotle's Poetics, page 23. Hogarth, 1928
Walter Burkert, 1992. The Orientalizing Revolution: Near Eastern Influence on Greek Culture in the Early Archaic Age, p.56. (Harvard University Press). This sub-section depends largely on Burkert.
Burkert notes parallels with a bilingual Akkadian-Sumerian ritual text: "the knowledgeable specialist, the sacrificial piglet, slaughter, contact with blood, and the subsequent cleansing with water" (1992:58).
Strickland, Bonnie, ed. (2001). Catharsis. Gale.
Bushman, BJ; RF Baumeister, and AD Stack (1999-03). "Catharsis, aggression, and persuasive influence: self-fulfilling or self-defeating prophecies?". Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 76 (3): 367–376. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.76.3.367. PMID 10101875.
Gannon, Theresa A. (2007). "Aggressive offenders' cognition: theory, research, and practice". In Theresa A. Gannon, Tony Ward, Anthony R. Beech, and Dawn Fisher. Wiley series in forensic clinical psychology 35 (John Wiley & Sons). ISBN 978-0-470-03401-9.
Baron, Robert A.; Deborah R. Richardson (2004). "Catharsis: does "getting it out of one's system" really help?". Human Aggression. Springer. ISBN 978-0-306-48434-6.
Denzler, Markus; Jens Förster and Nira Liberman (2009-01). "How goal-fulfillment decreases aggression". Journal of Experimental Social Psychology 45 (1): 90–100. doi:10.1016/j.jesp.2008.08.021.
Ferguson, Christopher; Stephanie Rueda (2010). "The Hitman study: Violent video game exposure effects on aggressive behavior, hostile feelings and depression". European Psychologist 15 (2): 99–108.
http://primal-page.com/cathar.htm
ReferencesEdit
This article incorporates text from a publication now in the public domain: Chisholm, Hugh, ed. (1911). Encyclopædia Britannica (11th ed.). Cambridge University Press
Dictionary of the History of Ideas: "Catharsis"
Catholic Encyclopedia: "Mysticism" and "NeoPlatonism"
Blackwell Reference
No Contest
"Catharsis in Psychology and Beyond: A Historic Overview" by Esta Powell
External linksEdit
The dictionary definition of catharsis at Wiktionary
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For other uses, see Catharsis (disambiguation).
Catharsis (from the Greek κάθαρσις katharsis meaning "purification" or "cleansing") is the purification and purgation of emotions—especially pity and fear—through art[1] or any extreme change in emotion that results in renewal and restoration.[2][3] It is a metaphor originally used by Aristotle in the Poetics to describe the effects of tragedy on the spectator.[4][5]
Dramatic usesEdit
Catharsis is a term in dramatic art that describes the effect of tragedy (or comedy and quite possibly other artistic forms)[6] principally on the audience (although some have speculated on characters in the drama as well). Nowhere does Aristotle explain the meaning of "catharsis" as he is using that term in the definition of tragedy in the Poetics (1449b21-28). G.F. Else argues that traditional, widely held interpretations of catharsis as "purification " or "purgation" have no basis in the text of the Poetics, but are derived from the use of catharsis in other Aristotelian and non-Aristotelian contexts," Leon Golden writes.[7] For this reason, a number of diverse interpretations of the meaning of this term have arisen. D.W. Lucas (Aristotle: Poetics, Oxford, 1968)[8] in an authoritative edition of the Poetics comprehensively covers the various nuances inherent in the meaning of the term in an Appendix devoted to "Pity, Fear, and Katharsis". Lucas (pp. 276–79) recognizes the possibility of catharsis bearing some aspect of the meaning of "purification, purgation, and 'intellectual clarification'" although his discussion of these terms is not always, or perhaps often, in the precise form with which other influential scholars have treated them. Lucas himself does not accept any one of these interpretations as his own but adopts a rather different one based on "the Greek doctrine of Humours" which has not received wide subsequent acceptance. Purgation and purification, used in previous centuries, as the common interpretations of catharsis are still in wide use today.[9] More recently, in the twentieth century, the interpretation of catharsis as "intellectual clarification" has arisen as a rival to the older views in describing the effect of catharsis on members of the audience.
Purgation and purification
In his works prior to Poetics, Aristotle had used the term catharsis purely in its medical sense (usually referring to the evacuation of the katamenia—the menstrual fluid or other reproductive material).[10] Here, however, he employs it as a medical metaphor. F. L. Lucas maintains, therefore, that purification and cleansing are not proper translations for catharsis; that it should rather be rendered as purgation. "It is the human soul that is purged of its excessive passions."[11] Gerald F. Else, "Aristotle's Poetics: The Argument, Cambridge, Mass., 1957, p.440 made the following argument against the "purgation" theory: "It presupposes that we come to the tragic drama (unconsciously, if you will) as patients to be cured, relieved, restored to psychic health. But there is not a word to support this in the "Poetics", not a hint that the end of drama is to cure or alleviate pathological states. On the contrary it is evident in every line of the work that Aristotle is presupposing "normal" auditors, normal states of mind and feeling, normal emotional and aesthetic experience."
Lessing sidesteps the medical attribution. He translates catharsis as a purification, an experience that brings pity and fear into their proper balance: "In real life," he explained, "men are sometimes too much addicted to pity or fear, sometimes too little; tragedy brings them back to a virtuous and happy mean."[12] Tragedy is then a corrective; through watching tragedy, the audience learns how to feel these emotions at proper levels.
Intellectual clarification
In the twentieth century something like a paradigm shift took place in the interpretation of catharsis with a number of scholars contributing to the argument in support of the intellectual clarification concept. The following works can be usefully consulted in this regard: L. Golden, "Aristotle on Tragic and Comic Mimesis," Atlanta, 1992, S. Halliwell, "Aristotle's Poetics," London, 1986, D. Keesey, "On Some Recent Interpretations of Catharsis, "The Classical World", (1979) 72.4, 193-205. The clarification theory of catharsis would be fully consistent, as other interpretations are not, with Aristotle's argument in chapter 4 of the Poetics (1448b4-17) that the essential pleasure of mimesis is the intellectual pleasure of "learning and inference".
It is generally understood that Aristotle's theory of mimesis and catharsis are responses to Plato's negative view of artistic mimesis on an audience. Plato argued that the most common forms of artistic mimesis were designed to evoke from an audience powerful emotions such as pity, fear, and ridicule which override the rational control that defines the highest level of our humanity and lead us to wallow unacceptably in orgies of emotion and passion. Aristotle's concept of catharsis, in all of the major senses attributed to it, contradicts Plato's view by providing a mechanism that generates the rational control of irrational emotions. All of the commonly held interpretations of catharsis, purgation, purification, and clarification are considered by most scholars to represent a homeopathic process in which pity and fear accomplish the catharsis of emotions like themselves. For an alternate view of catharsis as an allopathic process in which pity and fear produce a catharsis of emotions unlike pity and fear, see E. Belfiore, "Tragic Pleasures: Aristotle on Plot and Emotion." Princeton, 1992, 260 ff.
Achieving catharsis in literary analysis
Catharsis can only be achieved by an accurate and persuasive analysis of character and action in a drama. Below is such an analysis by the distinguished British scholar E.R. Dodds directed at the character of Oedipus in the paradigmatic Aristotelian tragedy, Oedipus Rex:
"...what fascinates us is the spectacle of a man freely choosing, from the highest motives a series of actions which lead to his own ruin. Oedipus might have left the plague to take its course; but pity for the sufferings of his people compelled him to consult Delphi. When Apollo's word came back, he might still have left the murder of Laius uninvestigated; but piety and justice required him to act. He need not have forced the truth from the reluctant Theban herdsman; but because he cannot rest content with a lie, he must tear away the last veil from the illusion in which he has lived so long. Teiresias, Jocasta, the herdsman, each in turn tries to stop him, but in vain; he must read the last riddle, the riddle of his own life. The immediate cause of Oedipus' ruin is not "fate or "the gods"—no oracle said that he must discover the truth—and still less does it lie in his own weakness; what causes his ruin is his own strength and courage, his loyalty to Thebes, and his loyalty to the truth." (E.R. Dodds, "On Misunderstanding the Oedipus Rex," "Greece and Rome 13 ((1966) p.43."
The cogent logic of Dodds' analysis makes it possible for us to argue for the existence of a catharsis for diverse reasons based on any of the three major interpretations we have discussed: purgation, purification, intellectual clarification.
There have been, for political or aesthetic reasons, deliberate attempts made to subvert the effect of catharsis in theatre. For example, Bertolt Brecht viewed catharsis as a pap (pablum) for the bourgeois theatre audience, and designed dramas which left significant emotions unresolved, intending to force social action upon the audience. Brecht reasoned that the absence of a cathartic resolution would require the audience to take political action in the real world, in order to fill the emotional gap they had experienced vicariously. This technique can be seen as early as his agit-prop play The Measures Taken.[citation needed]
"Catharsis" before tragedyEdit
Catharsis before the sixth-century rise of tragedy is, for the Western World, essentially a historical footnote to the Aristotelian conception. The practice of purification had not yet appeared in Homer, as later Greek commentators noted:[13] the Aithiopis, an epic set in the Trojan War cycle, narrates the purification of Achilles after his murder of Thersites. Catharsis describes the result of measures taken to cleanse away blood-guilt—"blood is purified through blood" (Burkert 1992:56), a process in the development of Hellenistic culture in which the oracle of Delphi took a prominent role. The classic example—Orestes—belongs to tragedy, but the procedure given by Aeschylus is ancient: the blood of a sacrificed piglet is allowed to wash over the blood-polluted man, and running water washes away the blood.[14] The identical ritual is represented, Burkert informs us (1992:57), on a krater found at Canicattini, wherein it is shown being employed to cure the daughters of Proetus from their madness, caused by some ritual transgression. To the question of whether the ritual obtains atonement for the subject, or just healing, Burkert answers: "To raise the question is to see the irrelevance of this distinction" (1992:57).
Therapeutic usesEdit
In psychology, the term was first employed by Sigmund Freud's colleague Josef Breuer (1842–1925), who developed a "cathartic" treatment using hypnosis for persons suffering from hysterical symptoms. While under hypnosis, Breuer's patients were able to recall traumatic experiences, and through the process of expressing the original emotions that had been repressed and forgotten, they were relieved of their symptoms. Catharsis was also central to Freud's concept of psychoanalysis, but he replaced hypnosis with free association.[15]
The term catharsis has also been adopted by modern psychotherapy, particularly Freudian psychoanalysis, to describe the act of expressing, or more accurately, experiencing the deep emotions often associated with events in the individual's past which had originally been repressed or ignored, and had never been adequately addressed or experienced.
There has been much debate about the use of catharsis in the reduction of anger. Some scholars believe that "blowing off steam" may reduce physiological stress in the short term, but this reduction may act as a reward mechanism, reinforcing the behavior and promoting future outbursts.[16][17][18][19] However, other studies have suggested that using violent media may decrease hostility under periods of stress.[20] Interestingly, there's no "one size fits all" definition of "catharsis",[21] and this doesn't allow a clear definition of its use in therapeutical terms.
See alsoEdit
Abreaction
Closure (psychology)
Kenosis
Kairosis
NotesEdit
"catharsis," Merriam-Webster's Encyclopedia of Literature, Merriam-Webster, 1995, p. 217.
A. Berndtson (1975), p. 235: "The theory of catharsis has a disarming affinity with the expressional theory, since it emphasizes emotion, asserts a change in emotion as a result of aesthetic operations, and concludes on a note of freedom in relation to the emotion".
R. Levin (2003), p. 42: "Catharsis in Shakespearean tragedy involves ... some kind of restoration of order and a renewal or enhancement of our positive feelings for the hero".
Aristotle, Poetics, 1449b
"catharsis (criticism)" -- Encyclopedia Britannica
Thomas Scheff PhD Professor Emeritus of Sociology and Anthropology (1979). Catharsis in Healing, Ritual, and Drama. University of California, USA. ISBN 0-595-15237-6.
Golden, Leon. "Catharsis". Transactions and Proceedings of the American Philological Association 93: 51–60.
Lucas, DW (1977). Aristotle: Poetics. Oxford University Press, USA. ISBN 978-0198140245.
Michael P. Nichols, Ph D.; Melvin Zax, Ph.D. (8 June 1977). Catharsis in Psychotherapy. John Wiley & Sons Inc, New York. ISBN 978-0470990643.
Belifiore, Elizabeth S. Tragic Pleasures: Aristotle on Plot and Emotion, page 300. Princeton UP, 1992
Lucas, F.L. Tragedy in Relation to Aristotle's Poetics, page 24
Lucas, F.L. Tragedy in Relation to Aristotle's Poetics, page 23. Hogarth, 1928
Walter Burkert, 1992. The Orientalizing Revolution: Near Eastern Influence on Greek Culture in the Early Archaic Age, p.56. (Harvard University Press). This sub-section depends largely on Burkert.
Burkert notes parallels with a bilingual Akkadian-Sumerian ritual text: "the knowledgeable specialist, the sacrificial piglet, slaughter, contact with blood, and the subsequent cleansing with water" (1992:58).
Strickland, Bonnie, ed. (2001). Catharsis. Gale.
Bushman, BJ; RF Baumeister, and AD Stack (1999-03). "Catharsis, aggression, and persuasive influence: self-fulfilling or self-defeating prophecies?". Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 76 (3): 367–376. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.76.3.367. PMID 10101875.
Gannon, Theresa A. (2007). "Aggressive offenders' cognition: theory, research, and practice". In Theresa A. Gannon, Tony Ward, Anthony R. Beech, and Dawn Fisher. Wiley series in forensic clinical psychology 35 (John Wiley & Sons). ISBN 978-0-470-03401-9.
Baron, Robert A.; Deborah R. Richardson (2004). "Catharsis: does "getting it out of one's system" really help?". Human Aggression. Springer. ISBN 978-0-306-48434-6.
Denzler, Markus; Jens Förster and Nira Liberman (2009-01). "How goal-fulfillment decreases aggression". Journal of Experimental Social Psychology 45 (1): 90–100. doi:10.1016/j.jesp.2008.08.021.
Ferguson, Christopher; Stephanie Rueda (2010). "The Hitman study: Violent video game exposure effects on aggressive behavior, hostile feelings and depression". European Psychologist 15 (2): 99–108.
http://primal-page.com/cathar.htm
ReferencesEdit
This article incorporates text from a publication now in the public domain: Chisholm, Hugh, ed. (1911). Encyclopædia Britannica (11th ed.). Cambridge University Press
Dictionary of the History of Ideas: "Catharsis"
Catholic Encyclopedia: "Mysticism" and "NeoPlatonism"
Blackwell Reference
No Contest
"Catharsis in Psychology and Beyond: A Historic Overview" by Esta Powell
External linksEdit
The dictionary definition of catharsis at Wiktionary
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The Definition of Anguish
an·guish
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noun: anguish; plural noun: anguishes
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noun
noun: anguish; plural noun: anguishes
1.
severe mental or physical pain or suffering.
"she shut her eyes in anguish"
synonyms: agony, pain, torment, torture, suffering, distress, angst, misery, sorrow, grief, heartache, desolation, despair; More
antonyms: happiness
verb
verb: anguish; 3rd person present: anguishes; past tense: anguished; past participle: anguished; gerund or present participle: anguishing
1.
be extremely distressed about something.
"he anguished over how to reply"
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Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Both
To Joshua and Rudi Tan
These drugs harm my body. I'm a female. And taking the medicine will cause deformities in your baby in the future and also cause chemical imbalance in your body. And I am a female, what if I can't get pregnant next time? Continued taking of these drugs will make me not be able to get pregnant anymore! And that destroys you as a woman and makes you not a woman!
Cummon, let me eat vitamin B COMPLEX that addresses your core biological systems, NOT PRESCRIPTION DRUGS that "covers up" your symtoms!
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These drugs harm my body. I'm a female. And taking the medicine will cause deformities in your baby in the future and also cause chemical imbalance in your body. And I am a female, what if I can't get pregnant next time? Continued taking of these drugs will make me not be able to get pregnant anymore! And that destroys you as a woman and makes you not a woman!
Cummon, let me eat vitamin B COMPLEX that addresses your core biological systems, NOT PRESCRIPTION DRUGS that "covers up" your symtoms!
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Nasty Smile On His Face.
Violence by Uncle Rudy/Rudi Tan Seng Kok
He either wants me to die or be locked up
He asked: "Is your mental state ok? I said yes. And then he said: then you should go to prison, right!" With a nasty smile on his face.
On the month of October, he forced me to give him my contacts.
Thereafter, he called each one of them and defamed me.
On the 13 December 2013. He shook hands with my Preacher and blocked me from talking to my Senior Pastor.
He would show these msgs from joshua to my sister and said "see?" And then chuckle heartily. Saying " ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha."
Withdrew me from my studies.
Took away my multiple charging plug, took out the fuse for the plug, meddled with my things, meddled with my affairs, plugged out my headphone wires. Cut my wires.
Took away my laptop and bag and never to return.
Constant hospitalisation caused me by stable job.
No choice to reveal.
- Knows very well IMH is torturing me, he still puts me there.
- When i need to share with church members about my backsliding and my experiences and
- My dignity
- he did ask me
- Fraud business - Applipro - dishonest contractor. He would charge high price, and giving you low quality work
- Stole my laptop, stole my bag. Giving the excuse that pornography.
What happened to the laptop now?
I also found porn magazines in my father's drawer before.
You may want to visit the Family Registry at the Subordinate Courts (located at the Family and Juvenile Court Building). They will advise you on the options you have and whether a PPO can be applied against your dad. Family violence is a ticking time bomb and you don't want matters to escalate beyond control.
Ask father to tear down all my posters on the wall.
Said that he would paint the wall. I would pay someone to paint the wall. In November. Until now, he never did.
My mum has been kind to tolerate him
Stole my things but would not admit to it. At least I do admit to taking my father's for a survival phone
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He either wants me to die or be locked up
He asked: "Is your mental state ok? I said yes. And then he said: then you should go to prison, right!" With a nasty smile on his face.
On the month of October, he forced me to give him my contacts.
Thereafter, he called each one of them and defamed me.
On the 13 December 2013. He shook hands with my Preacher and blocked me from talking to my Senior Pastor.
He would show these msgs from joshua to my sister and said "see?" And then chuckle heartily. Saying " ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha."
Withdrew me from my studies.
Took away my multiple charging plug, took out the fuse for the plug, meddled with my things, meddled with my affairs, plugged out my headphone wires. Cut my wires.
Took away my laptop and bag and never to return.
Constant hospitalisation caused me by stable job.
No choice to reveal.
- Knows very well IMH is torturing me, he still puts me there.
- When i need to share with church members about my backsliding and my experiences and
- My dignity
- he did ask me
- Fraud business - Applipro - dishonest contractor. He would charge high price, and giving you low quality work
- Stole my laptop, stole my bag. Giving the excuse that pornography.
What happened to the laptop now?
I also found porn magazines in my father's drawer before.
You may want to visit the Family Registry at the Subordinate Courts (located at the Family and Juvenile Court Building). They will advise you on the options you have and whether a PPO can be applied against your dad. Family violence is a ticking time bomb and you don't want matters to escalate beyond control.
Ask father to tear down all my posters on the wall.
Said that he would paint the wall. I would pay someone to paint the wall. In November. Until now, he never did.
My mum has been kind to tolerate him
Stole my things but would not admit to it. At least I do admit to taking my father's for a survival phone
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Sunday, December 15, 2013
Look
Haha I'm such a bitch.
This is how he look like last time.
Firstly, look how cocky he is.
Then, look how unhappy his son is.
I ever stayed in his house before when I was young in Primary 5! And I witness his son, Leonard Tan Wei Liat always calling him "Drunkard!" And constantly fighting while Mr Rudy is whistling.
My aunty was the one who bathed me and coached me.
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This is how he look like last time.
Firstly, look how cocky he is.
Then, look how unhappy his son is.
I ever stayed in his house before when I was young in Primary 5! And I witness his son, Leonard Tan Wei Liat always calling him "Drunkard!" And constantly fighting while Mr Rudy is whistling.
My aunty was the one who bathed me and coached me.
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Friday, December 13, 2013
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Do what you want others to do unto you
Solomon's Proverbs: The Wise Son
…18He who conceals hatred has lying lips, And he who spreads slander is a fool. 19When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise. 20The tongue of the righteous is as choice silver, The heart of the wicked is worth little.…
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…18He who conceals hatred has lying lips, And he who spreads slander is a fool. 19When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise. 20The tongue of the righteous is as choice silver, The heart of the wicked is worth little.…
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To you:
Mr Tan:
James 1:19
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
James 3:2
We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.
Job 11:2
"Are all these words to go unanswered? Is this talker to be vindicated?
Proverbs 17:27
The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.
Proverbs 18:21
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Ecclesiastes 5:2
Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.
Ecclesiastes 5:3
A dream comes when there are many cares, and many words mark the speech of a fool.
To me as well.
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James 1:19
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
James 3:2
We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.
Job 11:2
"Are all these words to go unanswered? Is this talker to be vindicated?
Proverbs 17:27
The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.
Proverbs 18:21
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Ecclesiastes 5:2
Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.
Ecclesiastes 5:3
A dream comes when there are many cares, and many words mark the speech of a fool.
To me as well.
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Do you know? Part 2
That my uncle - my father's third older brother chained my cousin - my father's sister's youngest son James Ng's legs to the window just because he went to Normal Academic and forced him to study?
Do you know that when I was 15, I was the butt of his bully, as it was normal to fail at that time, he said "Normal to fail?!". In Sec 3, most of the students in the class failed most of their subjects. But in the end during O Levels, they get A1s for them. Seeing that I "didn't do well" for my studies, he stepped into my life, with my failing subjects as justification, he reigned control.
And then forced me to sit at the round table, I'm sitting, but in my heart, I'm still standing. And when I was so subdued, I was defiant. Then he threatened to cut my hair. He said: "If you don't listen, I use this scissors to CUT your ponytail ah?!". Threatened.
Undermining. And abusive.
He was actually holding a pair of scissors.
He can be THAT terrifying.
He was holding the scissors close to my hair, behind at my tail. I was forced to listen to him.
2. And then, he went to my room, saw my R L Stine books and Fear Street books, and took all and sold it away. When he was there, he said to my cousin Joshua Tan Wei Rong, "all these books ah, we take and sell it away ah."
I had a collection of R L Stine and it was all taken away from me and never to be returned. My heart wrenched and my mind broke. These books shape who I am, these books are close to my heart. I love R L Stine alot. And to lose all these books was a Huge loss to me. I felt that a huge part of me was missing.
I lived with big holes in my heart and in my mind.
15 was the year also that my classmates started to call me weird. Apparently for some hacking of my online profile and what happened online. Which I had absolutely NO IDEA what was that about. But I strongly attribute it to my uncle.
He had forced me to give him my Friendster password. At that time, I frequent my cousin Joshua Tan's house often and use his comp often.
And when I was there, my third uncle also came. I was logging in to Friendster at that time. He came with his wife, and at the scene, my cousin Joshua was there, with cousin Jonathan (his older brother), and my grandma.
The whole atmosphere was pressurising. With so many people in the room.
And then we had a talk. Talking about how bad my studies was and that if I want to go out of the room or I could have my privileges, I would have to give them my Friendster and Email password.
I didn't want to at first. But they said firmly they want me to give them that they can check and log in if not "you will not get to use the comp". Furthermore, my uncle said in a forceful tone: "don't give us a fake password ahhh, we will CHECK."
I have done nothing bad greatly online on Friendster at that time, nor have I been up to any mischief at that period of time. But because of the new advent of social media at that point of time and my normal failing secondary 3 results, my password was forced out of me.
They even joked about my password - "jam jam jam! What kind of password is that!"
Until 2008, I couldn't use my email account since 2005 because they have logged in and changed my password.
It was only after much much later I manage to twist into my account and am using it till now. Which explains why I had been using another email g e m m i n d o w n i n instead of the original g e m m i n d o w n which I hated the longer one but I had no choice.
That sparked off my desire and drive to create multiple accounts so my life doesn't depend on one if that is compromised.
It was also mentioned by my cousin Joshua to my uncle that "Even if you check her account, she can and will always create another one what". Turning to me and said "you will always create another one what"
It made me lose all contacts and control over my account which I had for the past few years when I was young. It made me lose touch with reality and with friends.
15 years old was the time he was controlling me and I hated it so much I decided to act stupid to him. I talked in a high pitch baby tone to hopefully get him OFF me. It happened for a while till he really got fed up and in his last burst of fire, drove me to IMH.
Thankfully the IMH doctor was smart enough to know I wasn't suffering from any mental illness.
And even if I wasn't, years later after living with my mad dad and years of suppression from my uncle, I would surely become M.A.D.
While I was in the car, I didn't know where he was heading to. But when he hit the road of Buangkok, my cousin Joshua who was asked to come with us, sitting at the front seat of the car exclaimed "wa! Seriously ah!"
And that marked my first visit to that siao lang keng.
I was pretty impressed though, by the modern features and the welcoming lobby.
But as I mentioned, years later, stepping into the C Class wards was a totally different thing.
My persistent and controlling uncle simply RUINED MY LIFE.
Not only mine, but many others as well. There was a time he kept calling my house phone incessantly, everyday, to talk to me.
As the house phone wasn't cordless at that time, I had to STAND for HOURS at length to talk to him on the phone. Most of which was long lectures. He kept asking me "Do you agree not?", "Right?" And I was seriously tired of all these bullshit and I just couldn't care less saying "Ya." All the way and that's when I learnt to say "Yes" instead because he said: "Don't keep saying Ya! Ya! Say YES!", "What is 'Ya'! Ya! Ya! Ya!"
My ears almost burst at that time and I was eager to put down the phone but trying hard not to make him angry or step on his toes lest I get another 'treatment' of his.
Honestly speaking, all of the "patients" of mental hospitals are Normal. It is of the 'treatment' they receive.
I had to stuck my body to the wall and shift the phone as far as I can manage it because I was itching to sit down or to do other more important stuffs.
And he doesn't say bye. He would drone on and on and on and on and on and on and on and when he is satisfied, he would say Ok. And I THANK GOD that FINALLY I can put down the Goddamn phone.
So there was once Jehovah Witnesses came and out of kindness my mum and I invited them into the house. Two of them. Because my mum was emphatising that it was tiring and is was hot outside.
So my uncle rang my goddamn phone and asked me what I'm doing. And when he heard voices at the background, he asked who's that and as a good little girl trying to suck up to him and suck up to him so he would give me benefits, and without knowing the consequences I told him it was Jehovah Witnesses in my house.
At that point of time I didn't know Jehovah Witnesses were illegal in Singapore. But what my uncle did later was too much. So what if it's against the law? We need to approach them with love too.
So, he put down the phone and said: "I'll be right there now"
And when he came, with my cousin Joshua, the Jehovah Witnesses suddenly become very scared because my uncle threatened to call the police. And two of them ran away. My uncle and cousin chased them under the block to the bus stop outside, to the streets and they were frantic. They ran for their dear lives and allegedly hopped into a taxi. And my uncle and cousin returned panting.
I believe in the best in people. So what if they are wrong? Do you kill them with the law? Is that really what Jesus would do?!
So that's the extent he can go.
FML.
I'm gonna be a lesbian.
Do you know that when I was 15, I was the butt of his bully, as it was normal to fail at that time, he said "Normal to fail?!". In Sec 3, most of the students in the class failed most of their subjects. But in the end during O Levels, they get A1s for them. Seeing that I "didn't do well" for my studies, he stepped into my life, with my failing subjects as justification, he reigned control.
And then forced me to sit at the round table, I'm sitting, but in my heart, I'm still standing. And when I was so subdued, I was defiant. Then he threatened to cut my hair. He said: "If you don't listen, I use this scissors to CUT your ponytail ah?!". Threatened.
Undermining. And abusive.
He was actually holding a pair of scissors.
He can be THAT terrifying.
He was holding the scissors close to my hair, behind at my tail. I was forced to listen to him.
2. And then, he went to my room, saw my R L Stine books and Fear Street books, and took all and sold it away. When he was there, he said to my cousin Joshua Tan Wei Rong, "all these books ah, we take and sell it away ah."
I had a collection of R L Stine and it was all taken away from me and never to be returned. My heart wrenched and my mind broke. These books shape who I am, these books are close to my heart. I love R L Stine alot. And to lose all these books was a Huge loss to me. I felt that a huge part of me was missing.
I lived with big holes in my heart and in my mind.
15 was the year also that my classmates started to call me weird. Apparently for some hacking of my online profile and what happened online. Which I had absolutely NO IDEA what was that about. But I strongly attribute it to my uncle.
He had forced me to give him my Friendster password. At that time, I frequent my cousin Joshua Tan's house often and use his comp often.
And when I was there, my third uncle also came. I was logging in to Friendster at that time. He came with his wife, and at the scene, my cousin Joshua was there, with cousin Jonathan (his older brother), and my grandma.
The whole atmosphere was pressurising. With so many people in the room.
And then we had a talk. Talking about how bad my studies was and that if I want to go out of the room or I could have my privileges, I would have to give them my Friendster and Email password.
I didn't want to at first. But they said firmly they want me to give them that they can check and log in if not "you will not get to use the comp". Furthermore, my uncle said in a forceful tone: "don't give us a fake password ahhh, we will CHECK."
I have done nothing bad greatly online on Friendster at that time, nor have I been up to any mischief at that period of time. But because of the new advent of social media at that point of time and my normal failing secondary 3 results, my password was forced out of me.
They even joked about my password - "jam jam jam! What kind of password is that!"
Until 2008, I couldn't use my email account since 2005 because they have logged in and changed my password.
It was only after much much later I manage to twist into my account and am using it till now. Which explains why I had been using another email g e m m i n d o w n i n instead of the original g e m m i n d o w n which I hated the longer one but I had no choice.
That sparked off my desire and drive to create multiple accounts so my life doesn't depend on one if that is compromised.
It was also mentioned by my cousin Joshua to my uncle that "Even if you check her account, she can and will always create another one what". Turning to me and said "you will always create another one what"
It made me lose all contacts and control over my account which I had for the past few years when I was young. It made me lose touch with reality and with friends.
15 years old was the time he was controlling me and I hated it so much I decided to act stupid to him. I talked in a high pitch baby tone to hopefully get him OFF me. It happened for a while till he really got fed up and in his last burst of fire, drove me to IMH.
Thankfully the IMH doctor was smart enough to know I wasn't suffering from any mental illness.
And even if I wasn't, years later after living with my mad dad and years of suppression from my uncle, I would surely become M.A.D.
While I was in the car, I didn't know where he was heading to. But when he hit the road of Buangkok, my cousin Joshua who was asked to come with us, sitting at the front seat of the car exclaimed "wa! Seriously ah!"
And that marked my first visit to that siao lang keng.
I was pretty impressed though, by the modern features and the welcoming lobby.
But as I mentioned, years later, stepping into the C Class wards was a totally different thing.
My persistent and controlling uncle simply RUINED MY LIFE.
Not only mine, but many others as well. There was a time he kept calling my house phone incessantly, everyday, to talk to me.
As the house phone wasn't cordless at that time, I had to STAND for HOURS at length to talk to him on the phone. Most of which was long lectures. He kept asking me "Do you agree not?", "Right?" And I was seriously tired of all these bullshit and I just couldn't care less saying "Ya." All the way and that's when I learnt to say "Yes" instead because he said: "Don't keep saying Ya! Ya! Say YES!", "What is 'Ya'! Ya! Ya! Ya!"
My ears almost burst at that time and I was eager to put down the phone but trying hard not to make him angry or step on his toes lest I get another 'treatment' of his.
Honestly speaking, all of the "patients" of mental hospitals are Normal. It is of the 'treatment' they receive.
I had to stuck my body to the wall and shift the phone as far as I can manage it because I was itching to sit down or to do other more important stuffs.
And he doesn't say bye. He would drone on and on and on and on and on and on and on and when he is satisfied, he would say Ok. And I THANK GOD that FINALLY I can put down the Goddamn phone.
So there was once Jehovah Witnesses came and out of kindness my mum and I invited them into the house. Two of them. Because my mum was emphatising that it was tiring and is was hot outside.
So my uncle rang my goddamn phone and asked me what I'm doing. And when he heard voices at the background, he asked who's that and as a good little girl trying to suck up to him and suck up to him so he would give me benefits, and without knowing the consequences I told him it was Jehovah Witnesses in my house.
At that point of time I didn't know Jehovah Witnesses were illegal in Singapore. But what my uncle did later was too much. So what if it's against the law? We need to approach them with love too.
So, he put down the phone and said: "I'll be right there now"
And when he came, with my cousin Joshua, the Jehovah Witnesses suddenly become very scared because my uncle threatened to call the police. And two of them ran away. My uncle and cousin chased them under the block to the bus stop outside, to the streets and they were frantic. They ran for their dear lives and allegedly hopped into a taxi. And my uncle and cousin returned panting.
I believe in the best in people. So what if they are wrong? Do you kill them with the law? Is that really what Jesus would do?!
So that's the extent he can go.
FML.
I'm gonna be a lesbian.
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
And then, fake fake
Recently, I was constantly locked out of home.
I told my support group about it and they wanted to - support me.
When my friend from my support group came to my house, she felt very uncomfortable with my uncle. My uncle was forcing her to agree with him that I have to take medicine. He said: "Right or not?"
But she replied: "I agree we have to have some form of therapy. But I don't believe medication is the only way to do it".
He got frustrated and his whole face turned black.
And then he went to my room and took out his camera and said "Look at your room, so messy. I take picture." And snap snap.
This irritated me alot and that's why now, I will forever take videos and pictures of him forever.
And then, before this incident in the beginning, trying to pacify us and my father, he came all the way to our house, and bought two packet of tau huay for us. He said "nah, I bought tau huay. One for you and one for your friend."
And also bought chai tau kuay for my father who offered it to me.
At first, my friend and I were smittened.
But it was all a fake.
It was all, a show.
An act.
He NEVER bought tau huay for me before. Only when my friends are with me. In an attempt to buy my friend over.
Fraud.
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I told my support group about it and they wanted to - support me.
When my friend from my support group came to my house, she felt very uncomfortable with my uncle. My uncle was forcing her to agree with him that I have to take medicine. He said: "Right or not?"
But she replied: "I agree we have to have some form of therapy. But I don't believe medication is the only way to do it".
He got frustrated and his whole face turned black.
And then he went to my room and took out his camera and said "Look at your room, so messy. I take picture." And snap snap.
This irritated me alot and that's why now, I will forever take videos and pictures of him forever.
And then, before this incident in the beginning, trying to pacify us and my father, he came all the way to our house, and bought two packet of tau huay for us. He said "nah, I bought tau huay. One for you and one for your friend."
And also bought chai tau kuay for my father who offered it to me.
At first, my friend and I were smittened.
But it was all a fake.
It was all, a show.
An act.
He NEVER bought tau huay for me before. Only when my friends are with me. In an attempt to buy my friend over.
Fraud.
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Monday, December 9, 2013
Who's the devil now?
God's righteous anger against sin has been satisfied and today, we can expect only love from Him, not judgement. We can expect grace, not punishment. We will never be punished in the old covenant way ever again!
The accuser is an astute legal prosecutor who will not hesistate to use the Ten Commandments to condemn you. That's why the Word of God declares that the Ten Commandments are not just "the ministry of death", they are also "the ministry of condemnation".
Do you want to see how your heavenly Father responds when you have failed?
Look at the parable of the prodigal son which Jesus shared:
Luke 15:11-24 NLT
To illustrate the point further, Jesus told them this story: “A man had two sons. The younger son told his father, ‘I want my share of your estate now before you die.’ So his father agreed to divide his wealth between his sons. “A few days later this younger son packed all his belongings and moved to a distant land, and there he wasted all his money in wild living. About the time his money ran out, a great famine swept over the land, and he began to starve. He persuaded a local farmer to hire him, and the man sent him into his fields to feed the pigs. The young man became so hungry that even the pods he was feeding the pigs looked good to him. But no one gave him anything. “When he finally came to his senses, he said to himself, ‘At home even the hired servants have food enough to spare, and here I am dying of hunger! I will go home to my father and say, “Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son. Please take me on as a hired servant.”’ “So he returned home to his father. And while he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him. His son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son. ’ “But his father said to the servants, ‘Quick! Bring the finest robe in the house and put it on him. Get a ring for his finger and sandals for his feet. And kill the calf we have been fattening. We must celebrate with a feast, for this son of mine was dead and has now returned to life. He was lost, but now he is found.’ So the party began.
The devil is smarter than many psychiatrists and psychologists because he does not deal with what is peripheral. He does not get distracted by superficial details. Do you know what the devil's name is? His name is not "murderer", even though he kills. It is not "thief", even though he steals. It is not "destroyer" either, even though he destroys. His name is Satan. In Hebrew, it means "the accuser". He is the prosecutor against you. A prosecutor never talks about any of your good points. He is there to prosecute you for every one of your failures. He will bring back every piece of dirty laundry and show you evidence after evidence of your failures.
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The accuser is an astute legal prosecutor who will not hesistate to use the Ten Commandments to condemn you. That's why the Word of God declares that the Ten Commandments are not just "the ministry of death", they are also "the ministry of condemnation".
Do you want to see how your heavenly Father responds when you have failed?
Look at the parable of the prodigal son which Jesus shared:
Luke 15:11-24 NLT
To illustrate the point further, Jesus told them this story: “A man had two sons. The younger son told his father, ‘I want my share of your estate now before you die.’ So his father agreed to divide his wealth between his sons. “A few days later this younger son packed all his belongings and moved to a distant land, and there he wasted all his money in wild living. About the time his money ran out, a great famine swept over the land, and he began to starve. He persuaded a local farmer to hire him, and the man sent him into his fields to feed the pigs. The young man became so hungry that even the pods he was feeding the pigs looked good to him. But no one gave him anything. “When he finally came to his senses, he said to himself, ‘At home even the hired servants have food enough to spare, and here I am dying of hunger! I will go home to my father and say, “Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son. Please take me on as a hired servant.”’ “So he returned home to his father. And while he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him. His son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son. ’ “But his father said to the servants, ‘Quick! Bring the finest robe in the house and put it on him. Get a ring for his finger and sandals for his feet. And kill the calf we have been fattening. We must celebrate with a feast, for this son of mine was dead and has now returned to life. He was lost, but now he is found.’ So the party began.
The devil is smarter than many psychiatrists and psychologists because he does not deal with what is peripheral. He does not get distracted by superficial details. Do you know what the devil's name is? His name is not "murderer", even though he kills. It is not "thief", even though he steals. It is not "destroyer" either, even though he destroys. His name is Satan. In Hebrew, it means "the accuser". He is the prosecutor against you. A prosecutor never talks about any of your good points. He is there to prosecute you for every one of your failures. He will bring back every piece of dirty laundry and show you evidence after evidence of your failures.
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My uncle is the cause of everything
He is the one who actually instigated and got my parents, mum and dad to change their mobile number and blocked them from seeing me in the hospital.
This third uncle father's older brother of mine is cruel, wicked, cunning and conniving.
I hate him and I wish he would die as soon as possible. Of course I'm not gonna kill him. But he has an illness and most probably I'm happy he's being hurt himself.
Good riddance.
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This third uncle father's older brother of mine is cruel, wicked, cunning and conniving.
I hate him and I wish he would die as soon as possible. Of course I'm not gonna kill him. But he has an illness and most probably I'm happy he's being hurt himself.
Good riddance.
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Sunday, December 8, 2013
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