For Mention on 8 August 2016 Monday

For Mention on 8 August 2016 Monday

Note: Some of these are written in point form because these are all copied and paste from my iPhone notes. I would write down items about my uncle when it occurs to me immediately on my iPhone to counter him.

Drafted since Oct 2014

 Dear Family Court,

I need time to adjust. I was working because I had a new challenge of rent to pay. I never stayed in a rental house or rather in a group home before officially. I was also working to afford fees.

                Previously, I had the same experience where

                During and before my hospitalization, my uncle threw away AND took away my belongings. He took my belongings which I left outside the house and put it at Jalan Tenaga.

I had to go through a court order to retrieve my laptop which was locked in the house. And now, my uncle has taken the laptop and refused to return to me.

                I need the laptop because I had written my response to my family’s Affidavit. I need the laptop because I need to type out and print my response to the Affidavits, which I can’t do so without a computer at all. I have already typed through and is finishing my response, I saved it in my thumbdrive which is together with the laptop in it’s bag that is held hostage by my uncle.

                As you know my family has a history of violence and they misappropriate my properties. My M1 internet dongle is also with the laptop in it’s bag.

                I took pains to get my laptop back. It was ordered by the judge that my family’s lawyer hand it over to me after a court session in May 2014.

                To let me finish my response to the Affidavits for the trial, can you hold a Court mention to order the lawyer to retrieve my laptop back to me?

                I can’t continue because my belongings are not with me.

                My uncle has done several of these offences of disposing off my items, stealing them off and keeping it.

                My 150 DVDs are thrown away or taken away, my guitars, 5 in total and 1 electric guitar amounting to $2000 are stolen by my uncle.

                Previously, I got a Court order to get all my belongings out of the house, but they made a grave mistake of having my belongings handed over to my uncle.

                He searched my room with a lot of strangers he brought into the house, threw away my cupboard and took most of my belongings away. Leaving some which he handed over to the lawyer.

                It was ruled that I should lock my room door and no one can go inside it but my father and uncle has broken the order and had my room ransacked.  My uncle is my father’s third older brother. Judge Wong said no one should enter my room.

that if anything goes missing, I would again have to make a police report.

I have gone to my house recently and found out that my dongle is kept in a box and it’s used by my sister.

                The internet dongle is a subscription I subscribed to M1 and I receive continuous bill letters from them. However, it is being kept and refused to be returned to me.

                The loss of my dongle has caused great inconvenience to me, as I can’t access to the internet using a laptop or make use of the unlimited internet that I subscribed to. It has caused me emotional trauma that I have trouble going to the basic and necessary internet.

PPO:

Most importantly and lastly, I would like to request and appeal for an PPO to be upon the perpetuator I have applied against. PPO against my uncle especially. Because I don’t want a session where my family be violent towards me. Especially my uncle. I cannot protect myself and the law isn’t there to protect me because there isn’t an Personal Protection Order covering me.

                It has happened before.              

                I was left stranded in the cold when my uncle harassed me after I applied for PPO and had to appear in court and an PPO was yet granted.

                The reason being things would worsen when the times come.

The reason why I had to come back so late was because I needed to spend Christmas and Chinese New Year in peace. The last time I applied for a PPO during before Christmas, I got locked out of my house and I had to sleep at the corridor at the cold winter atmosphere for days. Also, my uncle would start to harass me when I start the PPO during festive seasons. Due to my depression, I would feel extremely upset and depressed during Christmas and Chinese New Year because my uncle would disturb me and block my connection to my family for the reason because I applied for PPO against them during this period.

                My past Christmas and New Year experience was very painful. My family called the ambulance and sent me in IMH, hoping I would be locked up there and I spent my Chinese New Year locked up in IMH. unable to be discharged in time.

                These caused me huge emotional distress and imbalance as I missed the angbao taking and reunion with my beloved relatives especially in Malaysia. That caused me to take a one-way bus to Seremban after I was discharged and plagued me with numerous homeless nights,

                I had to visit my relatives this and last Chinese New Year in peace. And in favor of my family members. I need to eat reunion dinner. Most suicides happen during festive seasons when the outcast or vulnerable one is outcasted from their families during celebrative seasons. And I couldn’t afford the dark thoughts.

                I had decided to commence and remove my PPO application after Chinese new year. And I was working as a in the SEA games which just ended recently last year, which begin my trial.

                I cannot just stop and write off or suck off my PPO application because my uncle is still violent and harassing towards me to this very date. In the month of February 2015, my uncle came to my church twice. Called me fatty bom bom. Said my laptop’s in IMH, took out his phone and threatened me with taking videos of me. Took out his handphone and pointed towards me, taking multiple photos of me. And then to taunt me, he made funny faces to me and gesturing noisily to me. For example, opening and closing his mouth like how an adult scares a baby. Kept approaching my grandma, telling her and warning her not to talk to me. When my grandma said “no, it’s okay” he violently insist and said “No! CANNOT! CANNOT!”. He instructed my father, when in Chinese new year, not to let me go home. He then followed me into the lift when the service is over and stopped me from going down with my grandmother who was wheeled on a wheelchair by Veron the maid and my father. He stood close and menacingly to me. He said: “The High Court Chief Justice is my friend!”and äll the social workers are my friends already.” Tried to snatch my grandmother’s wheelchair cushion from me when my father passed it to me. And glared at me.

                I don’t think I need an PPO to justify that his actions are threatening.

These are the instructions he gave my sister in malice and harm towards me:

                And the police should start to take action because he had been warned in court that he is not to bother my family or me. Because he was instructing my father, mother and sister exactly what to do and trying to add salt into our relationship, breaking it.

                He also said, and said it very loudly on purpose to my sister so that I could hear it: “We SACK her from her house already. Make her family have NO RELATIONS with her.”

                Instructed my sister to cunningly and secretly and secretly safekeep my mother’s handphone so as to stop communication from me to her.

                I made police reports to keep a file of violence he is doing to me to aid me in my trial for him in court and for the police to reveal an offence through investigation that he has to be dealt with the law. The police should do something because previously, when he thought he had all the power, he physically pulled my hair before, pushed my, and snatched my bag from me before.

                I need to be protected from him.

                He needs to know he can’t control my parents. And they have a free choice to love their children. Ruin my relationship with my family.

                I have suffered a lot and he has to be given a stern warning and punishment. He is the one who rummaged my room with a group of people.

                In May 2014, The Court ordered that I am to retrieve all my belongings that I needed from my home, but in the end my lawyer received my items my uncle rummaged my room and gave it in two bags.

                In July 2014, he misappropriated my two bags as I was ousted from my church friend’s house where I was staying at previously. He took it from outside my home when I put it there after the oust and drove away with it till now.

                My properties and belongings were amounting to a loss of $10 000. He has to PAY BACK for misappropriating my items.

                My very nice pink cardigan that I like very much is gone. I need it so much.

                Things included letters given to me from my letterbox. Return my laptop, and my spectacles. He caused me to have no underwear, bras to wear.

                Also, there are numerous headphones of mine at home being cut of their wires by my uncle.

                I had superman shoes. which were $150 per pair, gone. He took my guitars, electric piano keyboard… DVDs.. my exercise books.. Everything, from my laminated pieces of paper to my encouragement papers my peers wrote for me.

                He paste newspapers all around my house with mentioning about schizophrenia and medicines and would highlight the newspaper and lament and repeat to me that I would turn schizophrenia from bipolar if I don’t eat my medicine.

                And tearing down my newspaper which are articles by CEO of IMH that people with mental illness should not be mollycuddled at home.                                                       Is not helping me or my family. So many other things. The authoritative method that caused me more damage than helping me.

                These things CANNOT be thrown out like that! All your belongings, even precious things that you treasure!

                Ruin my whole relationship with other people, ruin my career, ruin my relationship with my family.

                And I will end up feeling so bad that even I don’t have depression right, I will be sunk into depression. I will be driven to a corner. Why? Because I cannot stand up against my uncle.

                So, I need to get the PPO. Because I know my uncle would not stop to be violent with me. I have been postponing my restart in court, quietly tolerating his abuse because I want to settle down. I went into hospital in July 2014. A day before my trial of family court because I’ve been sleeping on staircase and my doctor has heard of my toileting issues without a home. and he admitted me into IMH because I slept at the staircase at my house because my father and was instructed by my uncle locked me out of my house because I have started PPO application against both. As a bid to punish me and trying to stop me from being successful in my application.

                In IMH, I was forced to go into Rehab. Which wasted another 2 of my months spending in hospital for Rehab. I spent a total of 3 months in the hospital from the date I was supposed to go on a trial. So I was backdated for 3 whole months not able to restart trial. Moreover, I couldn’t resolve my police report on my uncle taking away all my belongings. I was very traumatised by it. Losing all my belongings.

                I would like to add that I was decided to also start trial online until now. because I am also drugged. I had a whole lot to catch up being locked up for 3 months. And then I wasn’t let off. Even month I am given injection. This drug made my thinking slower,  I have frequent side effects and I can’t function properly because sometimes my eyes would keep looking upwards – a side effect of the drug. And I would feel paranoid and racing heartbeat – another detrimenting effect of the medicine.

                But I have to settle my court case first.

                I feel agony prolonging this because my uncle had been a tyrant. I feel unsettled that justice has not been done on him. And I can’t rest until he gets what he deserves. He has made my life like shit.

                Being on drugs made me slow. Pardon me for dragging it for a year. I have family issues to deal with and an impeding of my mind too.

                Please Judge, I really hope to see Justice done and get the PPO I deserve because I need it.

                Help me, you know.

                However good and well my relationship with my parents and sister have been, - calls, visits, buying things, there will be problems and violence when I go home eventually. So I need my PPO to protect me.

                And lastly, it’s my death wish to complete this PPO application, tediously as it is, and arduous. I can’t just give up everything when have gone at length and gone so much and far.

                I mainly want to get back to court and see the Judge to get back my laptop and justice.

                But lastly and this is the most important: Please tell me if I can really get a PPO out of this, It has already been a long and tedious process for me already

                But if possible, I would want to go ahead.

                My things are still missing.

                Please help.

                The main thing I need this court case is DEO. Domestic Exclusion Order. I need to have exclusive rights to my room in case anything happens to me. That I can go home because I have exclusive rights. And stop violence by preventing people to go into my room while I’m inside.

                I have stayed in IMH for 6 months because my parents refused to let me in the house nor bring me home and I don’t have a place to go.

                I may also want to get the PPO if that’s the case as well. I can’t let go that my uncle misappropriated my belongings. A huge chunk of me is affected.

Regards,

Miss g

Following is his message to me. Which is spiteful, hurtful. Who talks like this?.. Would you imagine your uncle talking like this to you? Using words like ‘bitch’, ‘aircon prison’, ‘behind bars’ and saying I will not get my grandma’s inheritance.

I sent a message to highlight the abuse in IMH and how IMH has caused traumatization to me that it is not helpful to send me there, but he is ruining my life. But out comes an onslew of words which is not helpful and hurts like a knife.

 
- whatsapp pic malaysian number

This is my iPhone Notes on the latest things that he do to me: it is a 9 page long culimative

And it also includes past violence.

From notes:

- 2013 stopped me from going church camp. how hurting is that?! Until now the memory hunts me.

- just like the 14 yo kid who got pressed by the police and what happens to him next?...

- make me have no position in my home. No cupboard. Under the tyranny. Am I going to be homeless forever?...

want PPO so cannot go after me anymore.

阴魂不散

he told my father "her things I wont guan anymore!" and now he is still controlling me. if he cannot control himself from being controlling over people, den you should have him checked whether he has an obsessive compulsive disorder.

so obssessed with me cheating people, he should be checked in his brain for mental illness - obsessive compulsive disorder

I call the pastor visit ah ma

he got angry and scolded the shit out of papa and tell my mum i go and cheat pastor of money

Emotional and psychological attacks

Child abuse

makes me like him

Removed my name from HDB, 

recently even called my dad to ask if I'm staying at home. And if I am, to kick me out if I am.

4th July 

1. Go and tell the lawyer I recorded using iPhone allege. 

he has so many allegations against me. 1st - I pulled out my grandmother's tube when I didnt

2nd go and tell my mother that I have been cheating everyone people of money. which i didnt do again. making my mum SO worried and upset.

say I got 3, 4 phones

He told me before he got 3,4 phones, one on my hands, one lying on the table, on at home. "I will give one to Wei Ping. No to u" hahaha

and at ah ma's death meeting say I got the latest phone! who uses the old model now

2. Say I want to upgrade grandma ward to B2. No! I asked the nurse that upgrading would be better

1st July Fri Called my father 

 3rd July Sun Came to church

talk to my father

Need from him: 

1. My Clothes! worth $1500 And therefore me, I make money only to put it into a bag of holes. Make money and put it again into a bag of holes. Where he transported it away by his car - Of uncle of vehicle number SJK 3444G.

2. My laptops.  Acer, touchscreen HP

my specs

- my macbook - last

- my guitars????!

- my superman shoes!

- my 100 over DVDs?!

- my swimsuit from arena cost $300

- THREW away my whole wardrobe

- take our office chairs away!

- my exercise books!

- my sleeping bag!

- my black file with my LGBT news in it

- my dvds?!

- my school secondary sch and primary sch report book

- Youth mental health resource kit

- my NLT bible A4 book gift by anna hannah

- anna's notebooks to me...

- IMH exercise books blue A5

- books.. peter revelation

Things Missing: Black Laptop Acer Windows 8 with M1 internet

my diaries that document my primary school farewell writings

Court : 
Things to Mention: 

Get back my specs

4 May 2016 7pm

Ordered my father to force me to delete my Facebook about my grandma within 3 days if not he will sue me. Got shouted by my father. 

durress

coercion

print msgs to wei ping

1 may threatening whatsapps

24 apr sun

Prisoner. One year 2 days...!

No degree, OUT!

23 April 2016 Sat 

"Ensure PEOPLE don't steal the money box"

when i walking off with my father he whistle again

and said go go! go already i can tell u more

-- go shout "HARASS PPL (James)"

don't eat medicine, still SICK! Still siao!...

21 April 2016 Friday 

Force me to switch off my phone

at ah ma's house say "if ok dont eat medicine? is siao."

- 5 April 2016 Tues 

1. Why I visit after visiting hours

2. I pull out Ah ma's feeding tube

3. If he ever sees me at ah ma's ward, he will call the police

4. He already reported my name to the SGH to ban me from visiting her

spoke to my home's 3 people for 3 hrs

my father has paranoia and my uncle makes it worst by saying i go around cheating money. increasing her suspicion

he wants me to stay in IMH for one year. Can’t it be Outpatient? Doesn't have to be inpatient!

Court against Rudi tan court - been contacting my friends? He has been contacting and stalking each of my friends.

- whacked my camera when i was around the house 

- purposely keeping me in hospital to keep me from pursuing this right? 
- to keep me drugged right?

and when im inside, keep asking my parents to change number. He can maintain the same number but he detriments my parents by changing the number people know them by!

throw away my things.

My mother will protect me. But he disregards my mother and bullies her!

for example, throw away my hamster and it's paraphenalia!

Could stop him. To prevent exploitation and protect moral values

Lasting Power of Attorney - best interest - worst choice

- IMH - ruin my life, disrupt my studies. so free. everyday stay in IMH, don't have my life ah

The situation in IMH is such that many arose out of family conflict. Many are sent there due to family problems.

- my modelling picture frame missing

- CNY 2016

Started off with fake calling about court 

- Next asking ah ma john paul working and that implying i should work

- den slamming leg and calling me fatty bom bom

- the eyes moving left moving right. count: later missing ang bao

- whistling the fly me to the moon song twice

- you want to eat, can, other people cannot... if not eat already fly me to the moon

7. You know what's her condition not

8. Saying out loud "Family the most important thing is RESPECT." when he doesnt even respect me by throwing my belonging 

9. tell him don't have to interfere with my family and reporting my affairs - i go to this grandma relative house bai nian he also have to tell my father.

Good Friday : make fake call again: sharp video also can

whistling fly me to the moon again

26 Mar 2016

Told my parents I go around cheating money, Asking people to donate to me etc that I ask pastor to visit my grandma.. when i never

he's the one that is cheating. charging high price for low quality work. as a contractor. people call him dishonest contractor

he himself do it. but he says it's me who do it. why? because it reflects himself!...

make my mother so disappointed in me after hearing the fake news... why want to wrench my mother's heart?!!

I remember the time when I actually brought a friend home, he went and TALKED to my friend and tried to convince her I was mentally ill.

spread rumors abt me

- catch my father to scold. and in turn my father scold me

30th Mar 2016 Wednesday 3.30pm

My grandma went into hospital. in critical condition and getting worst each day. I heard there is a family conference at 3pm for all the Tan family for the doctors to update us about the condition of my grandma. I know my uncle would disapprove and bar me from coming to the meeting so I went after they entered.

When I entered, my uncle provoked me by singing "fly me to the moon! and let me shit among the sands! hahaha! In other words, please sack me out! In other words, kick me out. Send me to the IMH! lala"

Making the rest of the people in the room laugh out loud at me. Humiliating me.

There was my second uncle (father's second older brother), and his two sons - my cousins - Joshua included, my auntie (father's older sis) and uncle Rudi's wife. 

Not trusting me. As an uncle he should protect me, love me, coax me. But instead, he is spiteful towards me, hurt me, hate me.

And den he teased: "NOW I HAVE IPHONE 6! I rule the world now!"

Then he said "we have to get rid of the Undesirable Element here" 

And he won't relent, he take a photo of me and video me when I cried and talked to the doctor. 

He tried to shoo the doctor from me, kept saying "don't disturb the doctor ah, she got alot of things to do, she got alot of patients to attend to"

and breaking the conversation with me and the doctor

I burst into tears. He ridiculed me - don't cry crocodile tears. Then tell everyone, later she will cry SHARK TEARS.

- He would cut out newspaper articles about people with schizophrenia killing, murdering people, and paste it all over my house. And told me, "you better eat your medicine, if not your bipolar will become schizophrenia and siao siao"

The newspaper article would talk about other comforting words to the mentally ill, but he would highlight the word "medicine" and "murder" and such like that purposely.

When I paste encouraging newspaper articles to counter that, he tears off the paper and shreds it into pieces.

When I was young, bring me to make PROGRESSIVE lenses. And I go through atropine eye drops to dilate my eyes.. All his recommendations are wrong!...

- My grandma is in hospital now. And my uncle tell the maid, when I come, call him. Informing him if i come to visit my grandma, making a scene out of me

- remembering the time when he forced to confiscate my IC from me.

He followed me out of ICA. When I tried to flag a cab to get out of sight, he took his handphone camera and pointed at me. And then he took a picture and video at me.

Before that, he waited for me at the first floor of ICA for me to come down after collecting back my IC with Joshua Tan Wei Rong my cousin, his nephew.

They laughed when I came down.

The ICA officer actually wanted to wait for them to leave before I go, to avoid me meeting up with them.

He then joked to the security officer at the entrance of the ICA, pointing at me to the officer and laughing.

They behaved like this because they were ridiculing why should I have possession of my own IC. 

My uncle decided to take my IC from my mum and bring it to ICA because the officer warned my cousin Joshua that it's an offence to possess my IC and I needed it urgently.

Wtf is wrong with them seriously.

This happened in roughly  2013.

- To survive an ordeal like this - I would be psychologically scarred.

- Judge Wong Keen Onn already ordered him to stay out of our family affairs

- no contact with parents?

- you mean I have no part in the house? i have contributed to the house, renovated it, refurbished it, tidied it, added to it's collection, bought things for the house, i have no part in it? i grow up in the house, sleep in the house, eat in the house?

- my dvds?!

- my school secondary sch and primary sch report book

- Youth mental health resource kit

- my NLT bible A4 book gift by anna hannah

- anna's notebooks to me...

- IMH exercise books blue A5

- books.. peter revelation

- opening my letters and reading my letters - Uncle Andrew's letter and using it against me

- writing all over my letters - ("RETURN TO SENDER" and cancelling the "To Be Opened By Addressee Only")

- my 2 laptops

- my specs

- my macbook - last

- my guitars????!

- my superman shoes!

- my black file with my LGBT news in it

- my 100 over DVDs?!

- my swimsuit from arena cost $300

- THREW away my whole wardrobe

- take our office chairs away!

- my exercise books!

- my sleeping bag!

- in sec 3, REMOVED all my story books

- in my 20s, REMOVE all my DVD

- my modelling picture big frame one

- took away all our office chairs

- took out the sofa cushion and let me sleep on the planks

- my hamster everything

- my healing promises book and provision promises book

- and my sleeping bag!

- return my laptop in it's original bag with the mouse and dongle

- my favourite soft toy my big bear is gone

- influenced my father to remove my name from the house

- threw away my cupboard and bookshelves.. and pakat with my parents to say that they ask to throw instead.

-  my r l stine books which he sold off for profit!

- get back my laptop!

- my guitars? where?

- my hair rebonding person kit?

have to sign a contract that he cannot send me to IMH.

get back my three laptops: my acer- most important - my hp and my macbook

my modelling portrait of me?

- all my exercise books stolen away. my sensitive information. all my information i wrote down

blocking me to go for church malaysia mission trip - is it necessary? fellowship, cut off my social circle of friends, of fellowship.. 

cut my headphone wires

wants me to surrender my own personal laptop which is mine

take things that was misappropriated

it is not passive. it is active.

The place where the lost chattel was found. If, for example, the lost chattel is found in a vacated hotel room, it is likely that the owner can be located as opposed to an item found in a public area of a shopping mall. If, instead, the lost chattel was found in a shop in a shopping mall, it would be reasonable to expect the owner to retrace his footsteps back to the shop after realising that he had lost the chattel. In such a situation, in order to avoid criminal liability, it would be prudent for the finder to leave his contact details with the shop owner to discharge his duty of taking reasonable means to give notice to the owner. The finder may only deal with the lost chattel as his own after the owner has failed to claim it in spite of the lapse of a reasonable time. Alternatively, he could leave it behind with the shop owner.

finder of lost property in a public place should take in order to avoid or minimise the risk of criminal liability

I have not abandoned my items. my belongings

Reasonable steps to locate the owner

they were in the SAME bag indentifiable when he handed me the stuff

However, what is clear is that when a person finds a lost chattel which he knows has not been abandoned, which is of some value and where the true owner can possibly be identified and located, the prudent course of action would simply be to report the lost chattel to the police, not because the finder is legally obliged to do so, but because it is the best and most pragmatic way for the finder to discharge his duty in taking reasonable steps to locate the owner, and to avoid a finding of dishonesty that attracts criminal liability under s 403.

wrongful loss to me and a theft

I have a CCTV clock camera he threw away too. It's worth $98.

He even wanted to tie a chain around the fridge to Stop me from eating

- I suggest my uncle not to have any contact with my sister. manipulating her, putting thoughts about me in her mind, directing her actions...

- having access to their personal emails, checking their phones..

Social control.

checking, monitoring

makes it unequal 

Spiritual control, psychological

Verbal violence

Emotional violence

Isolated from their family and friends.

Relationship weakens

and trap their victims

that to depend on my uncle

Involves blaming the victims for the violence .. I'm too ugly.. Start to believe it overtime 

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- Judge wong keen oon say i can stay in my room. Can you get my parents to change the lock to the old lock so I can go in the gate.

My exercise book with all my music contacts

On 8 March 2015 11.48am My uncle came to my church again to look for my parents, saying that I have sued my parents again. and that i can freely go homely, giving false ideas to my parents that they worriedly talk to me on the phone: "you sue us again ah?".

Uncle the troublemaker.

I've been under his control and tyranny for too long.

Why does he have to make my parents angry at me and sow discord saying I've commenced my PPO application again when I didn't?

- meanwhile he has to have no contact with parents - tearing family apart

- where's my modelling photo in a picture framed up?

- get back my two laptops HP and Acer and my specs.

19 February 2015 

Comes to my grandma house for Chinese New Year:

This is what he said: 

" Wei ping, (my sister) I hope you do your duty ah, inform them ah.."

"See, all nice dresses and nice hair man." while watching the TV

"That time I got lunch with this Ang Moh. At St Regis hotel." watching the tv

"Cut all the burned skin, from her face." referring to me

"Animals need to be tamed. Humans don't need"

"What a blardy useless father" referring to my father

"Hypocrite. Look at that hypocritical face" - referring to me "Pig face nobody want

"Dont forget the $20000 ah, wei ping"

"Nothing's gonna be free ah, nowadays."

"Surrender the phone and the laptop to us."

"Can you behave or not Seng Kok, can you behave? Why must you behave like that." - his wife scolded him

"Prevent bulgary, prevent theft, got thief here"

"Don't expect any ang bao. Bloody shit."

Kept on focusing his camera on me, taking videos of me, taking pictures of me.

Been standing behind me watching and looking at my handphone screen.

"The philosophy of the Family Court is to protect family obligations so that family ties may be strengthened and preserved. Family obligations refer to duties that have to be discharged by each spouse to the other, by a parent to his child, and vice versa, and by all persons to their family members.

"These include a parent's responsibility to maintain, nurture and care for his children, an adult child's duty to maintain his parent, a husband's duty to maintain his wife, and the duty of all family members to treat each other with care, concern and respect."

While you can't legally disown your parents in Singapore, the closest thing you can get is a Personal Protection Order, issued in cases of family violence as defined by Section 64 of the Women's Charter.

Family violence can occur in the following forms:

• Wilfully or knowingly placing, or attempting to place, a family member in fear of hurt;
• Causing hurt to a family member by such act which is known or ought to have been known would result in hurt;
• Wrongfully confining or restraining a family member against his will; or
• Causing continual harassment with intent to cause or knowing that it is likely to cause anguish to a family member

A "family member" is defined in the Women's Charter as:

• Spouse or former spouse of the person
• Child of the person, including an adopted child and a step-child
• Father or mother of the person
• Father-in-law or mother-in-law of the person
• Brother or sister of the person
• Any other relative of the person or an incapacitated person who in the opinion of the court should, in the circumstances, in either case be regarded as a member of the family of the person

Have been told by Judge Wong Keen Onn not to involve in our family affairs.

Stole my RL Stine books

Re put me back in the name of the house. it is my uncle that influenced my father to strike off my name.. and put my father's name as owner. he wasnt the owner. it was my grandma

and my name isn't in the list of the occupiers in the first place. 

On 1 February 2015 My sister told my mum I haven't changed, I am not well yet.

Came to church twice. Call me fatty bom bom

- Said my laptop's in IMH

- Took out his phone and threatened me with taking videos of me. 

Took out his handphone and pointed towards me, taking multiple photos of me

- and then to taunt me, he made funny faces to me and gesturing noisily to me. For example, opening and closing his mouth like how an adult scares a baby.

- kept approaching my grandma, telling her and warning her not to talk to me. When my grandma said "no, it's okay" he violently insist and said "NO! CANNOT! CANNOT!"

instructed my father, when Chinese New Year, not to let me go home

- He then followed me into the lift when the service is over and stopped me from going down with my grandmother who was wheeled on a wheelchair by Veron the maid and my father (elaborate)

- he said, "The High court Chief Justice is my friend!" and "all the social workers are my friends already."

Tried to snatch my grandmother's wheelchair cushion from me when my father passed it to me. And glared at me.

I don't think I need an EO to justify that his actions are threatening.

And the police should start to take action because District Judge Wong Keen Onn had warned him in court that he is not to bother my family or me. Because he was instructing my father, mother and sister exactly what to do and trying to add salt into our relationship, breaking it.

- He also said, and said it very loudly on purpose to my sister so that I could hear it: "We SACK her from her house already. Make her family have NO RELATIONS with her."

Even Sarah Ann Tay said his gestures and himself is threatening.

instructed my sister to cunningly and secretly safekeep my mother's handphone so as to stop communication from me to her.

- I made this report to keep a file of violence he is doing to me to aid me in my trial for him in court and for the police to reveal an offence through investigation that he has to be dealt with the law. 

The police should do something because previously, when he thought he had all the power, he physically pulled my hair before, pushed me and snatched my bag from me before.

I need to be protected from him.

He needs to know he can't control my parents. And they have a free choice to love their children.

ruin my relationship with my family

I have suffered alot and he has to be given a stern warning and punishment.

 He is the one who rummaged my room with a group of people

In May 2014, The court ordered that I am to retrieve all my belongings that I needed from my home, but in the end my lawyer received my items my uncle rummaged my room and gave it in two bags.

In July 2014, he misappropriated my two bags as I was ousted from my church friend's house where I was staying at previously. he took it from outside my home when I put it there after the oust and drove away with it till now.

loss of $10 000 PAY BACK

- my very nice pink cardigan that I like very much is gone. I need it so much.

Letters given to me - frm my letterbox

return laptop and my spectacles

- cause me to have no underwear, bras to wear

- numerous headphones of mine being cut of their wires

- superman shoes - so expensive, where?

- took away my powders i just bought. 

soap bars, 

My things outside the house - worst. cunning.

All shoes gone. All shoes that are mine except my dad's still outside.

- Hangers even. are gone.
- even my menstruation pad. who takes them?!
- My bras and underwears. Still new! how can the karang guni man take away??!
- My important documents like my bank, applying for bank CPF investment.

- My alumni card
- Letter of prize from the police

- Singapore disability council t shirt

- and my sleeping bag

- all my beautiful clothes gone And therefore let me repeat: me, I make money only to put it into a bag of holes. Make money and put it again into a bag of holes. 

- my diploma cert

- Things thrown away - guitars electric, piano keyboard,... DVDs...

- my exercise books

- everything. from my laminated pieces of paper to my encouragement papers my peers wrote for me

- Paste newspapers all around my house with mentioning about schizophrenia and medicines and would highlight the newspapers and lament and repeat to me that I would turn schizophrenia from bipolar if I don't eat my medicine.

- And tearing down my newspaper which are articles by CEO of IMH that people with mental illnesses should not be mollycuddled at home.

- Is not helping me or my family because they could not handle me. But instead, he is doing it for his own gain. - investment from Joshua for his car.

- if he was to help me, he would be GIVING me stuff instead of STEALING my belongings away. 

performed VIOLENCE on me.. : 

bang my head on the phone at Hougang Care Centre,

wrestle with me on the floor to get my bag, ...

asking my parents not to be with me... 

ordering my parents to bring me to the mad house IMH

stealing my bursary money... stealing my phones...throwing away my clothes...

talking to my pastors and banning me from joining my church fellowship to mission trip..

force himself on me and my friends, contacting my friends and telling them about me...

humiliating me and embarassing me in front of a whole group of church friends before the mission trip...

instructing my sister to file police reports against me and not to talk to me...

instructing my father and mother to apply PPO against me...

threw away my wardrobe, bookshelf guitars and DVDs.

- stole my Macbook and confiscated my NUM (New Urban Male) bag

- throw away my hamster cage and bedding straw

so many other things

the authoratative method that caused me more damage than helping me.

- took my whole clothes away. Now I don't even have formal clothes to wear. to work in office jobs, or to go to presentations

- my whole box of hair straightening equipments

- my black file with all my flyers inside 

- my red cartoon soft toy which I have so much emotional attachment to it. which I hug to sleep every night

- sec 3 my RL stine story books all sell away

- and my letters not given to me

- And my thumbdrive with my laptop

- mosquito repellant

- where's my specs?

- my sleeping bag

- cut my headphone wires

- where are my DVDs 100 over

- my bookshelf. where are my church devotionals, my Christian books

- my music contacts.. my contacts with my friend's name, no and emails

CANNOT be thrown out like that! all your belongings, even precious things that you treasure!

- my branded bag NUM bag

They want to send me to IMH for NO Future and they have given up future on me that's why. Therefore why should I tolerate them and not pursue this court case?

Send me to IMH, Make me look insane, die die force me to eat the medicine and go there

Make me look like shit, 

make me go through hell

an eye for an eye

don't let anyone do things to me that make me leave a BLACK MARK you know

I am the one going through the pain

This is obviously like bullying me,

and stepping on me

like under his toes like that

And moreover his not my dad,

his not my mum and his not me also

and why must i let him control my whole soul like that

like he say what I must listen

i to defend

next time i dont give him a chance

say him until he die

dont let my uncle do it to me

if lets say he do it repeatedly,

one day if im not insane, i will really be labelled as insane

i must really fight back

for all the injustice he has done to me lah.

and when im there right,

you think my uncle will come and visit me and care for me ah

bullcrap bullshit

ask him to get far far away from me

ask him to mind his own business

ask him to care about his own business

im like that is his business no

eat too full nothing to do ah

what's yr agenda actually? what's yr motive behind sending me there

what you really really want

otherwise what do you want to have anything to do with me

i dont even know you that well

originally im not.

to make me think im a loser. some kind of crap like that

all these are all nonsense

ruin my whole relationship with other people

ruin my career

ruin my relationship with my family

the more you go there, the more people will have that impression that im really that kind of person la

and i will end up feeling so bad 

that even i dont have depression right,

i will be sunk into depression 

i will driven to a corner

why? because i cannot stand up against my uncle

make sure i get close to me i will really bite one

why they want to have anything to do with you, to say this say that

is jealous

see you very good

find mistake with you

make sure i look bad in front of other relative

maybe he has some problems himself that he dont even REALISE IT 

people can see right. who is in the right who is in the wrong

Been in contact with my church pastors, invading into my social circle..

--- Violence by uncle Rudy/Rudi Tan Seng Kok".

It was my uncle who whisked my sister away to his friend's house at Thompson to stay and said "your sister tell ALL her school friends about you!"

Until my sister got influenced by him and follow him and act like him.

She is young and impressionable.

It was my uncle who influenced my father that I was mentally sick and forced me to eat medicine. 

It was my uncle who influenced my mother to apply PPO against me.

It was my uncle who influenced the lawyer by repeatedly telling him I am from IMH, I am from IMH. When HE himself drove me to IMH when I was 15.

Never goes to church. Only when terribly sick himself.

It was my uncle who instructed my sister on her every move.

It was my uncle who engaged a lawyer for my family.

He is a hypocrite. I thought he is a good uncle who helped me before. He helps my sister on the terms of bribery. He talks with a snare and a sly in his mouth.

Because I remember: there was a time I got so frustrated with his "help" on me, that I acted stupid in front of him. And he sent me to IMH because of that.

It was my uncle who influenced the doctors not to let me out of the hospital.

It was my uncle who blocked me from talking to my parents.

It was my uncle who stole away my pants and shirts and dresses. And therefore me, I make money only to put it into a bag of holes. Make money and put it again into a bag of holes. 

It was my uncle who took away my journals and my writings that make cartharsis difficult and tiresome.

It was my uncle who changed my father's and mother's number that I had a terrible time in the hospital because I could not contact them.

It was my uncle who got my grandma to be diagnosed as DEMENTIA. When she is perfectly alright.

It was my uncle who turned on the TV during chinese new year to the Indian channel and swaggeringly waved his ass around laughing at the TV.

It was my uncle that stopped my mother from giving me money for food.

It was my uncle who took away my ricebowl by taking away my laptop which contained my singing songwriting materials and my works in the arts.

It was my uncle and father who caused me to be like this.

It was my uncle whose wife had to keep on telling him "Behave yourself la! Seng kok!" "Shut up la seng kok." And "stop bothering them la seng kok"

His son resorted to smoking when he was young when oppressed by him.

I think he has some mental problem but he doesn't know it and we also do not know it.

When I was in Hougang Care Centre, it was my start of my survival terrible 'habit'. I wanted to make it rich. I wanted to make it big. 

However, after I stepped into my home, and I came back home, these Stopped completely. I never had that in my home life ever. Because I was taken care of, I was loved, I was cared for and provided for. And my uncle is depriving me from going back home.

This is what I need, parents.

During family dinner for Grandma in a restaurant when I was small, around 19, we got so abused, me and my sister went into the toilet and burst into tears. We looked at each other and yes, burst into tears. She was only 14 then.

23 Dec 2013 5.13pm at the family court, said it in front of my ear: "screw her up very jialat jialat!"

"I stand guard."

Written on 25 Dec 2013 2:42am

October incident: 

On the month of October, he locked me outside of my room, instructed my father to tear down my wall posters. 

This is how he look like last time.

Firstly, look how cocky he is.

Then, look how unhappy his son is.

I ever stayed in his house before when I was young in Primary 5! And I witness his son, Leonard Tan Wei Liat always calling him "Drunkard!" And constantly fighting while Mr Rudy is whistling.

My aunty was the one who bathed me and coached me.

In IMH: he showed off his card to me. "I am the founder of a company! I AM THE CEO! And then flicked open his card and showed me. BUT, he cunningly and connivingly used his finger to blocked the name of the company. I suspect that company is a contracting company. 

He has been accused online on STOMP Talkback that: Rudi Tan Seng Kok is charging high price and giving you low quality work. He like to go around talking...

Mr Rudy/Rudi Tan Seng Kok is a Dishonest Contractor that was talked back on STOMP's talkback forum. But the post was removed and reconstructed because Mr Rudy/Rudi Tan Seng Kok made a fuss.

It still doesn't change what people said - he is a Dishonest contractor. 

Took picture of me when I was in ICA. Cunning.

Written on 23rd Dec 2013:

Kick me out of the room, tore down my posters, and then said want to paint my room. Saying he will pay ppl to paint, but in the end from Oct, have not even a trace of paint.

Do you know? Part 2

That my uncle - my father's third older brother chained my cousin - my father's sister's youngest son James Ng's legs to the window just because he went to Normal Academic and forced him to study?

Do you know that when I was 15, I was the butt of his bully, as it was normal to fail at that time, he said "Normal to fail?!". In Sec 3, most of the students in the class failed most of their subjects. But in the end during O Levels, they get A1s for them. Seeing that I "didn't do well" for my studies, he stepped into my life, with my failing subjects as justification, he reigned control.

And then forced me to sit at the round table, I'm sitting, but in my heart, I'm still standing. And when I was so subdued, I was defiant. Then he threatened to cut my hair. He said: "If you don't listen, I use this scissors to CUT your ponytail ah?!". Threatened. 

Undermining. And abusive.

He was actually holding a pair of scissors.

He can be THAT terrifying.

He was holding the scissors close to my hair, behind at my tail. I was forced to listen to him.

2. And then, he went to my room, saw my R L Stine books and Fear Street books, and took all and sold it away. When he was there, he said to my cousin Joshua Tan Wei Rong, "all these books ah, we take and sell it away ah." 

I had a collection of R L Stine and it was all taken away from me and never to be returned. My heart wrenched and my mind broke. These books shape who I am, these books are close to my heart. I love R L Stine alot. And to lose all these books was a Huge loss to me. I felt that a huge part of me was missing.

I lived with big holes in my heart and in my mind.

15 was the year also that my classmates started to call me weird. Apparently for some hacking of my online profile and what happened online. Which I had absolutely NO IDEA what was that about. But I strongly attribute it to my uncle.

He had forced me to give him my Friendster password. At that time, I frequent my cousin Joshua Tan's house often and use his comp often.

And when I was there, my third uncle also came. I was logging in to Friendster at that time. He came with his wife, and at the scene, my cousin Joshua was there, with cousin Jonathan (his older brother), and my grandma.

The whole atmosphere was pressurising. With so many people in the room. 

And then we had a talk. Talking about how bad my studies was and that if I want to go out of the room or I could have my privileges, I would have to give them my Friendster and Email password.

I didn't want to at first. But they said firmly they want me to give them that they can check and log in if not "you will not get to use the comp". Furthermore, my uncle said in a forceful tone: "don't give us a fake password ahhh, we will CHECK."

I have done nothing bad greatly online on Friendster at that time, nor have I been up to any mischief at that period of time. But because of the new advent of social media at that point of time and my normal failing secondary 3 results, my password was forced out of me.

They even joked about my password - "jam jam jam! What kind of password is that!"

Until 2008, I couldn't use my email account since 2005 because they have logged in and changed my password. 

It was only after much much later I manage to twist into my account and am using it till now. Which explains why I had been using another email g e m m i n d o w n i n instead of the original g e m m i n d o w n which I hated the longer one but I had no choice.

That sparked off my desire and drive to create multiple accounts so my life doesn't depend on one if that is compromised.

It was also mentioned by my cousin Joshua to my uncle that "Even if you check her account, she can and will always create another one what". Turning to me and said "you will always create another one what"

It made me lose all contacts and control over my account which I had for the past few years when I was young. It made me lose touch with reality and with friends.

15 years old was the time he was controlling me and I hated it so much I decided to act stupid to him. I talked in a high pitch baby tone to hopefully get him OFF me. It happened for a while till he really got fed up and in his last burst of fire, drove me to IMH. 

Thankfully the IMH doctor was smart enough to know I wasn't suffering from any mental illness. 

And even if I wasn't, years later after living with my mad dad and years of suppression from my uncle, I would surely become M.A.D.

While I was in the car, I didn't know where he was heading to. But when he hit the road of Buangkok, my cousin Joshua who was asked to come with us, sitting at the front seat of the car exclaimed "wa! Seriously ah!"

And that marked my first visit to that siao lang keng.

I was pretty impressed though, by the modern features and the welcoming lobby. 

But as I mentioned, years later, stepping into the C Class wards was a totally different thing.

My persistent and controlling uncle simply RUINED MY LIFE.

Not only mine, but many others as well. There was a time he kept calling my house phone incessantly, everyday, to talk to me.

As the house phone wasn't cordless at that time, I had to STAND for HOURS at length to talk to him on the phone. Most of which was long lectures. He kept asking me "Do you agree not?", "Right?" And I was seriously tired of all these bullshit and I just couldn't care less saying "Ya." All the way and that's when I learnt to say "Yes" instead because he said: "Don't keep saying Ya! Ya! Say YES!", "What is 'Ya'! Ya! Ya! Ya!"

My ears almost burst at that time and I was eager to put down the phone but trying hard not to make him angry or step on his toes lest I get another 'treatment' of his.

Honestly speaking, all of the "patients" of mental hospitals are Normal. It is of the 'treatment' they receive.

I had to stuck my body to the wall and shift the phone as far as I can manage it because I was itching to sit down or to do other more important stuffs. 

And he doesn't say bye. He would drone on and on and on and on and on and on and on and when he is satisfied, he would say Ok. And I THANK GOD that FINALLY I can put down the Goddamn phone.

So there was once Jehovah Witnesses came and out of kindness my mum and I invited them into the house. Two of them. Because my mum was emphatising that it was tiring and is was hot outside.

So my uncle rang my goddamn phone and asked me what I'm doing. And when he heard voices at the background, he asked who's that and as a good little girl trying to suck up to him and suck up to him so he would give me benefits, and without knowing the consequences I told him it was Jehovah Witnesses in my house.

At that point of time I didn't know Jehovah Witnesses were illegal in Singapore. But what my uncle did later was too much. So what if it's against the law? We need to approach them with love too.

So, he put down the phone and said: "I'll be right there now"

And when he came, with my cousin Joshua, the Jehovah Witnesses suddenly become very scared because my uncle threatened to call the police. And two of them ran away. My uncle and cousin chased them under the block to the bus stop outside, to the streets and they were frantic. They ran for their dear lives and allegedly hopped into a taxi. And my uncle and cousin returned panting.

I believe in the best in people. So what if they are wrong? Do you kill them with the law? Is that really what Jesus would do?!

So that's the extent he can go.

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2013

And then, fake fake

Recently, I was constantly locked out of home. 

I told my support group about it and they wanted to - support me. 

When my friend from my support group came to my house, she felt very uncomfortable with my uncle. My uncle was forcing her to agree with him that I have to take medicine. He said: "Right or not?"

But she replied: "I agree we have to have some form of therapy. But I don't believe medication is the only way to do it".

He got frustrated and his whole face turned black. 

And then he went to my room and took out his camera and said "Look at your room, so messy. I take picture." And snap snap.

This irritated me alot and that's why now, I will forever take videos and pictures of him forever.

And then, before this incident in the beginning, trying to pacify us and my father, he came all the way to our house, and bought two packet of tau huay for us. He said "nah, I bought tau huay. One for you and one for your friend." 

And also bought chai tau kuay for my father who offered it to me.

At first, my friend and I were smittened. 

But it was all a fake.

It was all, a show.

An act.

He NEVER bought tau huay for me before. Only when my friends are with me. In an attempt to buy my friend over.

Fraud.

My uncle is the cause of everything

He is the one who actually instigated and got my parents, mum and dad to change their mobile number and blocked them from seeing me in the hospital.

This third uncle father's older brother of mine is cruel, wicked, cunning and conniving.

I hate him and I wish he would die as soon as possible. Of course I'm not gonna kill him. But he has an illness and most probably I'm happy he's being hurt himself.

Good riddance.

Killed me softly, slowly, surely.

Police Reports that never got pursued

Yet again, today, my exercise books of my written experience in IMH were stolen.

A green package of book 1 and 2 of exercise books, small ones were missing from my shelf. My sister can witness to that. I wrote a note to her saying if I ever die, write what I wrote in my blog. It is missing. Except for a grey book which is leftover. These books are very precious to me and if it's taken away from me, it means that uncle Rudi really doesn't want what I've written to be published.

Anyhow going to people's house and stealing people's things. My uncle has ruined my life!

Civil.

My uncle Sux

When I was in the hospital, my cunning uncle - Rudi Tan Seng Kok of Applipro Interior Design Services, took videos and pictures of me.

To Him: Let my mum make the decision not YOU for parole.

He is a controlling, dominant force.

Didn't want me to sit with my mum. Touch my legs. Even directing my mother where to sit you know.

Saying "Bring the Straitjacket" when he is not happy.

To uncle:

Return me my research money of IMH. It's my money. I go through the pains of injections of needles to get my $50 and $100. Pains of injections and talking.

This is what happened when

1. My uncle and My Cousin Brawled against me together

2. Push me to the ground to snatch my New Urban Male Bag from me

SO WHAT HAPPENED WAS, EARLY IN THE MORNING I WAS

Abuse since 2010.

Hospital

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

uncle = Shit Yeah!

So what happened was My uncle insulted me alot last last sunday, today's 25 November, so you calculate when's LAST LAST Sunday

he said: "I encourage you to take off all your clothes and dance on the table la!"

"do it! do it!"

"and you can tell the police I asked you to"

"I don't care!"

(SHEEEESSHHH!)

So My father, mother and my sister got a call from uncle, which called my dad to head to Siglap to EAT

So when I reach there, he asked me to

"Sit here!" like a commando

So I sat

"You have no choice, don't have to go up and see what to order. You have no choice"

(Bitch. So I sat there for a while and I could not stand it anymore. I stood up.)

I stood up and walked to the stalls to see what I can buy. Or what I can ask my mom to buy.

Then He DANG followed me and said

"Eh! Sit DOWN!" "Sit down!"

He followed me around at the back and said

"Sit down, you want me to shout here to let everybody hear is it?"

"Sit down, you want me to pull your hair is it" He threatened to pull my hair.

I headed back to my seat.

Next he bombarded me with abusive words

"So fat, like a PIG"

"PIG face, MONKEY head"

"You think you want to be Lady Gaga? You are Lady Xiao Xiao!"

"Lady Xiao Xiao!"

"Pig Face"

"Monkey head"

"Don't think your gonna make it"

And further insults like

"You cant pay your biills"

"You're gonna pay YOURSELF"

"Go dance on the table naked la!"

BITCH.

Staircase at oogachaga

Staircase at tiong bahru

Get drunk. At my relative's house at Jalan Ilmu, he would get drunk on lots of beer on the table and his wife and son would not be able to be driven home. His son had to force himself to drive when he does not know how to. I was there when he tried to rev up the car engine.

Always scolds me: "You don't think you're very smart!;)"

Instruct my sister and father to seize back my key to the letterbox. Qoo10 etc

In hospital, changed my mother's and father's number, blocked my father and mother to talk to me.  

And then when I came out, he said loudly in front of my cousin Joshua, "She, in hospital, DESPERADO you know!" And then cocked his head.

He either wants me to die or be locked up.

I learned that it doesn't matter who you are. Mood swings affect millions and millions of people. It is, an equal opportunity mongrel. I also learned there's no sliver bullet or magic pill. Medication may help some, but others may need a different approach altogether. I also learnt, that being emotionally genuine and authentic to those who are close to you, can mean absolute game changer. 

Most importantly, I learnt not to be afraid of the "black dog" and I taught him a few new tricks of my own. The more tired and stressed you are, the louder 'he' barks. 

So it's important to learn how to quiet your mind.

It's been clinically proven, that regular exercise can be use an effective treatment for treating mild to moderate depression as anti-depressants, so go for a walk or a run and leave them right behind.

Keep a mood journal. Getting your thoughts on paper can be cathartic, and often insightful.  

Also keep track of the things you had to be grateful for.

The most important thing to remember is that: no matter how. bad. it gets, if you take the right steps, talk to the right people, black dog days Can and Will pass.

I wouldn't say I'm ungrateful for the mood swing. He's been an incredible teacher. He forced me to reevaluate, and simplify my life. 

I learnt that rather then running away from my problems, it's better to embrace them.

The mood swings may Always be part of my life. But he'd never be the beast that he was. We have an understanding. I've learnt through knowledge, patience, discipline and humor, the worst disorder can be made to heal.

If you're in difficulty, never be afraid to ask for help. 

There is absolutely no shame doing so. The only shame is missing out on life.

He asked: "Is your mental state ok? I said yes. And then he said: then you should go to prison, right!" With a nasty smile on his face.

Threw away my hamster cage and my hamster paraphenalia

The reason why I have a mental illness because I was kicked out of house, sent to IMH, IMH forced injections on me, the nurses mistreated and abused me, and somemore, I can't go home, my parents refused to let me come home, I had to stay in a care centre that is non aircon, that is with 3 other people in the room (I had my own room to myself at home). My clothes were taken away from me by my uncle. My uncle was trying to make me suffer and stifle me. Being the unwanted medium between me and my parents. Things were packed for me in three black plastic bags full. But in the end he only gave me one bag. One set of clothes and I felt so devastated. It was as if my life was sucked away from me. I am an aspiring singer, a model, and in performing arts. And to be dressed in rags is the worst one actress can become. This is emotional blackmail and emotional scarring.

My boots, my dresses, nice ones are gone. I cannot find them anymore.

I was seperated from my family for months, I did not go to church because everything was taken away from me, I didn't have the means to. 

My uncle wrestled with me outside the care centre, taking away my bag with ez link cards, my cousin swooped over and pinned down my bag, fought hard and long with me, my mother did not support me, tried to contact her, but her number kept changing all the time and she was u reachable. She was heavily influenced by my third uncle, I was bruised on my hands, knees, had abrasions, and my finger was cut. Went to see the doctor.

Somemore I grew up in church and alienation from church members caused me to be lonely and helpless.  I had no one to turn to. My support group was not there. I lost contact with my church friends whom I so dearly grew up with. 

All these caused me mental distress and at the same time I was deferred from my studies, and I became mentally stressed and that was in 2010 I had heavy mood swings.

When I'm locked up in IMH, he can do anything. And arrange anything against my will.

On the month of October, he forced me to give him my contacts.

Thereafter, he called each one of them and defamed me.

On the 13 December 2013. He shook hands with my Preacher and blocked me from talking to my Senior Pastor.

He would show these msgs from joshua to my sister and said "see?" And then chuckle heartily. Saying " ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha."

Withdrew me from my studies.

Took away my multiple charging plug, took out the fuse for the plug, meddled with my things, meddled with my affairs, plugged out my headphone wires. Cut my wires.

Took away my laptop and bag and never to return.

Constant hospitalisation caused me by stable job. 

No choice to reveal.

- Knows very well IMH is torturing me, he still puts me there.

- When i need to share with church members about my backsliding and my experiences and 

- My dignity

- he did ask me 

- Fraud business - Applipro - dishonest contractor. He would charge high price, and giving you low quality work

- Stole my laptop, stole my bag. Giving the excuse that pornography. 

What happened to the laptop now?

I also found porn magazines in my father's drawer before.

You may want to visit the Family Registry at the Subordinate courts (located at the Family and Juvenile court Building). They will advise you on the options you have and whether a PPO can be applied against your dad. Family violence is a ticking time bomb and you don't want matters to escalate beyond control.

Ask father to tear down all my posters on the wall.

Said that he would paint the wall. I would pay someone to paint the wall. In November. Until now, he never did.

My mum has been kind to tolerate him

Stole my things but would not admit to it. At least I do admit to taking my father's for a survival phone

Instigating my father to disown me, controlling and always instructing my father. My mother got so frustrated and said "Actually our family is a happy family one you know! You come and ruined it!"

And then my uncle reacted by wanting to use the object in the room on the dressing table to whack her. Holding up the object and raising it up dangerously in front of her until she was smittened.

November Incident No 1:

In the month of November I took a clothe out from my cupboard to wear. My uncle sneaked into my house 

(he always does.) (whenever he wants to come to my house, he does it stealthily.) (I witnessed him outside my house, bringing my sister back from his "Thomson" place and then I saw him from the side of the door he did the "shhh" sign to my sister when she went in and he was outside. He later proceeded into my house.)

and looked at me and said: "this is my shirt! Take it off now!" "I said TAKE IT OFF NOW!"

Firstly, he gave all his shirts to us. And now he wants it back. Erratic in giving help. He has taken more then he has helped me. Alot of my things at home that are mine has been stolen by him with values more then what he has given me.

November Incident No 2:

Also in the month of November, he threatened me when I was using my laptop: "I use my hand, SMASH this laptop I tell you." And then proceeded to storm menacingly and furiously towards my laptop until I became scared and inched towards my laptop.

Previously he has done similar and worst things like this. I went to my grandmother's house because my sister was offered money for tuition for her GP in JC by my cousin. I was also called along after church as a family. When I went in, I put my bag next to the sofa. He said "Then you let me see what's inside your bag." 

This has happened before (refers to police case 2010) where he wants to "check my bag" in the end drove away with my bag and never to return it again. That bag is an expensive New Urban Male and it cost me $150. He took away the contents of my bag too. My wallet, my ezlink card, my journals my contact books, my handphones. All stolen by him.

He would "check my bag" and take away my stuffs. He then stomped menacingly towards my bag saying "you don't listen is it? I take your bag and throw it ah" and then ran towards my bag. I was stricken with fear and I, like a helpless puppy winced towards my bag and stand guard there. 

These happened countless times and in New Year too. Striking fear and intimidation to people's hearts and minds.

On the 23rd of December 2013 10am at the Family court,

When I went into the court room, my father's older brother rushed behind me and tried to enter before me. As I scanned the court room I found 4 seats in front on the left, but my uncle rushed in and blocked me from sitting down. While blocking me, he allowed the rest of the family to stream in and walk in to fill the seats in the court room. When he found that I had sat down on my seat and he had no choice to get the family to sit together, he arranged the seating position on who to sit where. He pushed my father right at the end far away from me, my cousin Joshua beside him and him beside me. I hate him and is very irritated with him. And he purposely sat beside me. 

And he instructed my sister to sit on the one seat available behind me.

During the middle of the other court proceedings, my father let out a guttural burp. Everyone in the court room sitting around him looked at him. And my befrienders from AWARE sniggered. I suppressed a laugh and I looked behind and my sister was trying to stifle her laugh too, my eyes caught hers and we laughed. I still have that love and connection with my sister. My uncle caught me in that and he turned to my sister and said: "Don't laugh with her know." Saying to the likes of: "Don't give her the validation, she siao."

Then after the court session, my counsellor at AWARE advised me to stay back at the court room to let them go off first. Or else there would be "conflict". So, after awhile, we then went out to sit outside the Kid's room. My counsellor went into the toilet to talk on the phone for half an hour, I was outside at the seat trying to sort out my papers. 

It was about one hour 

During the session in court on the 23rd Dec 2013, my uncle needs to be sent to jail. Because he is so cocky, he is so full of himself, that only prison can humble him down. Or else he will continue to hurt other people. Emotionally. I witnessed his lawyer, a pudgy, big, a little old - man walking calmly into the room. My uncle has gotten a court counsellor to open a room for my father, mother sister and cousin. With the lawyer. The lawyer looked at me with kind eyes as he calmly stepped into the room following after them. After my uncle spoke vehemently against me, allegedly in the room, the lawyer walked out in anger. He blew air from his nostrils. He looked like he was bound to kill someone. And that was me.

Therefore citing how powerful and how vehement the influence and the force of my uncle is.

When he did that, they stomped out of the room, I was sitting outside. Even when they first went into the room. I was surprised to see them still lingering around the court after the mention. 

He also when he saw me walking around before the court mention, he distinctly told my mother loudly "give her money to buy shoe la" "Don't give her!" 

This shoe is not bought using her money. And he is instigated what my mum would do and influencing her to commit family violence on me. 

Also, he instigated my sister to commit family violence on me - saying to her "you better disown her as your sister ah." In the court

25th December 2013:

Also, on the 25th December 2013 Christmas day, I called my aunty who is my father's 2nd older brother's wife Kim Hong, she's a very nice lady and a good Christian. She told me that I better not come to   Ah ma's house on Chinese new year. Because 'they' will chase me out.

My uncle ever scolded my aunty Kim Hong before. Saying she is too nice and she's a "mamala" or something like that. 

My aunty said "Love your enemy" so implying that my uncle and my father is my enemy. She said it was hard to.

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Written on 2 January 2014 9.55pm

The first time I ever stepped into IMH was 15 years old. When my bloody farken uncle drove me there because I spoke shit to him after he tried to control me.

When I was there, I heard this LOUD WAIL like a recurring siren. It was a screaming woman. It was in the Clinic and most probably she was tied up on the bed. I was so scared.

And then my bloody farken uncle had to say: "Ahh, one day, you will become like her." Fuck you. Instead of saying nice things and encouraging me, you want me to be tied up and be stressed and scream like a banshee?! And fuck you? You drove me to IMH for no fuck rhyme or reason?! Fuck you! You ruined my life!

From that day onwards, when they had tours around IMH when I was Secondary 3, I was like sniggering to myself like, hey, I've been here.

Just if you think "what did I speak?" I hated his rulings so I acted STUPID in front of him. I spoke in a high pitched voice. Why? I HOPED he will get irritated and GET THE HELL OUT OF MY LIFE! Seriously, there is something wrong with the bloody ol' farken uncle. Messed up in the blardy brains. Instead of helping your niece, he sends you to place I am Terrified of. If not for HCC, I would still not go to that place. A house on a hill. ...

My irritation to him was good because I was squeezing the screaming side and 'caring' side of him. He has this ~nonchalant~ ~cool~ EXTERIOR of him but when irritated and screwed by me, his flustered side comes out. I love that.

Advice to parents and uncles: Your kids don't want to see a Fake Cool exterior of you overpowering a child. Your kids want to see you fret over them, worry over them, sweat over them! That's what keeps the kids happy! It is the OBVIOUS care and concern that can make the kids KNOW. If not, the kid might feel 1. Threatened. and 2. Squashed down, 3. Intimidated.

Just like our school's education system. If your subject teachers come in with a lackadaisical attitude, you know I know some classmates of mine hates it!

They want personal attention from the teacher. They want the teacher to think over them. They WANT TO SEE EFFORT placed into them.

JUST like my uncle. Not some cocky, swagger-displaying uncle! But a humble, teachable, teaching and LOVING uncle!

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Written on 5 January 2014 7.05pm

- uncle Rudy Tan Seng Kok 

When people are abused, they wonder about

- euthanasia

- is it better to die?

- return me my laptop if not buy it back for me. My papa buy for me one

- I am not charged for it!

- then if you find pornography inside, 

- I also found pornographic magazines in my father's cabinet.

 - and you say the korean chicks wooo so hot their skin like porcelain! You are already watching porno!

 whole private lock chock full of private information is taken away from me la??!?! And you can access them la?!?? Don't lie ok!

- Where is my New Urban Male bag?

- For mama to apply for Protection Order against Sa pek.

- Blocked me from talking to the Pastor

- DEO and PPO. If the haze - where am I gonna sleep? No family union, no family unit!

- Stopped me from going to church camp - the bonding and fellowship with my friends in church. Stiffling me, boxing me up!

- of course I have to steal and get a phone before Malaysia what! That's my plan! Because I wanted to take alot alot of pictures and be able to post it online immediately! And! It is that stupid uncle who took my bursary cheque money from MOE! Farken idiot!

- Not in his favor, scold the Judge Wong Keen Onn "stupid" and said he wants to "faster go party", don't want to.. 

- On the 4th of January 2014 10am He called my father again, orchestrated, bring my mother to get diagnosed as depression with a psychiatrist. He drove me to IMH, got my father "are you siao not?".

He is the devil himself. And to think he was such a nice person.

And psychiatrists can't be trusted - wrongly diagnosed me as schizophrenic - and then my uncle would say go from bipolar to schizophrenic etc.

If he is not locked up in bars, he will ruin not only my family, but my grandma's my second cousin - also trying to get my grandma diagnosed - as dementia. Don't get me wrong! All these are legit. If you are really.. you know. But my grandma is a normal person. She just has "dementia" because can you imagine? Go be stuck in your house 24/7 la! See whether you have dementia or not! 

And the Joshua (my cousin) keeps on listening to him!

He is out to kill, steal and destroy. 

He knows that my mother is out to care for me. And he wants to cripple it.

- Basic - for him to consent to me having a Personal Protection Order. against him.

- Stole my books, which contains my friend's contact numbers and personal, private information. My thoughts, my private affairs.

- Return my formal shirt

- return my journals I wrote in the hospital - contains letters I want to write to a church pastor.

tell of the story of  pornography - return my laptop and return my bag and everything.

Throw away my hamster cage

Letterbox key

Throw away my chairs

- change my fuse etc

- threw away my multi plug charger. 6 pin.

- On the 2 January 2014 5:59pm, my mother pushed me fought with me when I tried to get the soft cushy chair in the master bedroom to put it in the living room.

Not able to sit under the fan. Chairs all taken away by my uncle and cousin.

Took away my journals - because you don't want me to write about the mistreat of nurses right?

- My story - journal

Took all our scissors away.

The green basket that stores our clothes is not to be seen ever.

- Never to say the word "si ka hou" la. Meaning "go and die better la".

- If my sister going to University, can I bunk in her place and visit her? Bunk when family got problems, visit to maintain connection.

- many times I slept in the corridor. On the cold hard floor. With clothes as the mattress.

- my letter from the CEO of IMH to congratulate and proof of mistreat by Nurses has been taken away by him.

- alot of things I put in my dining table outside are missing.

- say want to fix our bathroom door, say until 5 years later also never do anything.

- say want to ask and pay people to paint my room, 3 months later also blank as hell. - not only that. Also tore down all my posters. Forcing me to do it.

- influenced my father to throw away my hamster cage. - return it with money. I let the hamster be free so that it can bite my father when he scolds me.

- always throwing people's things away instead. He is the one out to kill, steal and destroy.

- controlling, controlling and overpowering!!!!!!!

- pushy pushy and always pushing people!

- the hang clothes outside taken away by my uncle

- pants taken away by my uncle. Black pants

- when my friend came to my house, bought tau huay for my friend and dinner for my father - chai tau kuay for him and packet rice. Normal times will not do that. Never bought a thing for me before. Especially I in the hospital, never buy anything for me, not even a KFC.

- wanted to get my friend's number

- been calling my dad and telling him I don't eat medicine I won't be well etc.

-called my father and ask "you took the friend's number already or not."

- in front of my friend, when she don't agree, go to my room and say "your room, see! It's a mess!" , nodding his head, he flicked out his camera and said "I take a picture". And then gave the kaching sound from the camera.

IRRITATING.

- tore down all my posters I put in front of wei ping's room.

What Is Family Violence?

Family violence as defined by the Women’s Charter as follows:

willfully or knowingly placing or attempting to place a family member in fear of hurt

causing hurt to a family member by an act which he or she ought to know would cause and result in hurt

wrongful confining or restraining a family member against their will

causing continual harassment with intent to cause anguish to a family member, including verbal abuse, psychological or emotional abuse.

The following acts are considered to be acts of family violence:

Physical abuse

Physical acts such as punching, kicking, pushing, choking, slapping, bruising or hitting with objects

Denial of food or water, sleep, shelter or medicine

Unwanted sexual behavior such as forcing sexual activity on the family member, including one’s spouse

Psychological abuse

Insulting or humiliating a person

Intimidating a person by screaming, making threats, harassment or destroying property

Emotional blackmail or using emotions to manipulate a person

Demeaning a person in front of others or in public places

Monitoring and controlling a person’s activities and relationships

Persistent hostility, including ignoring or blatantly rejecting a person

Confining a person within the home or stopping a person from going somewhere

Click on these links for more information

• Dealing with family violence

• What can I do if I’m facing family violence?

• Getting a Personal Protection Order (PPO)

• Making a Safety Plan

• How to help a friend/relative/neighbour facing family violence

- euthanasia 

- is is better to die?

Uncle to mother - Scolding outside court.

I want my court to stop scolding my mother ok.

Paint my room pale blue?! U were the one who wanted to paint my room!

He's the one who can't get what he wants, would get into a fuss. Like forcing me to give him my email password


untold torture in IMH, and they couldn't understand

And I believe, many of people come to IMH, not because they are mentally ill, but because of situations like ours. Like mine.

Nurses throwing away bottle of deodorant-belongings when it's not even used finished.

They are using IMH to lock me in and up. Which even the doctor said it's wrong.

he has damaged my headphones, plugged out the wires of my headphones.
He is a thief. stole my laptop, stole my belongings - clothes..


they tried their best to keep me from studying, they tried their best to not let me get my diploma cert.
Constant deferrence..

Money can buy medicine, but it cannot but health.


Shit uncle - He would forever accuse me of cheating.. stealing.. I mean, who would want to steal from people when they have enough themselves? Who would want to steal unless they are in lack? You are right. I have been deprived and stolen off from myself myself. That's why I had to resort to means. Miserable life.

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Since I was Sec 3, he stole away my entire collection of Novels and sold it away.

My father - went to IMH before, got married and have a kid now.
His friends would have said, wow, that Seng Hai, is married now and have a house of his own.

And then he continues the legacy and curse by sending his own daughter to IMH to continue the curse.


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Of course the floor will be scratched, I have to lift up the 100 ton cupboard myself you know. I had to do it all MYSELF.

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Nothing can heal except for a good home environment. A homely home environment.

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My Father To my Mum: He would say things like go to Geylang, open legs and be a chicken la! to earn money when she didnt have money. 

My Uncle to My Mum, "I throw this at you ah!"

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Not unannounced or uninvited. In fact, my Choon Moi aunty welcomes me more. She said anytime u are welcomed to come to my house.
I actually didn't want her to inform my mum or ask her to come to Malaysia that I'm here.
But my aunty just called her to tell her I'm there for vanity's sake.


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Consistent IMH mention.
After on medicine, I began lactating

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IMH - more of getting rid of me. Look at the last page of my Cousin how he threatens to send me to IMH

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The church DID NOT offer to send me to Mount Elizabeth. And it was not to undergo treatment and stay there. It was to certify that I am well.

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Exactly my mother is a docile person, and would never apply for a PPO application towards me. Much less my father. It was because it was influenced by my uncle, and instigated by him.

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I used to be a docile person like my mum until the demands and demanding attitude of my uncle compresses on me and I became to his liking. He taught me how to cheat and manipulate people.

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The Court will have highly qualified judges and district judges to judge and determine and do not simply send Summons just like that. It has to be because the violence was very bad that I had to resort to this method and the Summons to be served to him.

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Unlike my church elders, who want me to be certified as well and mentally sound, my own family wants me to be labelled as ill and to eat medicine as if I was sick

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AND, ESPECIALLY, after they hear of your ordeal, would they even offer you a job? would they even wanna make friends with you? or want to be with you? because they are afraid of you!

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It was my uncle, when I was well and the doctors and case managers really wanted me to get out and go home, it was my uncle who stopped them from releasing me. And I had to stay 6 months in the hospital, then I don't need to work la?...

It was him and my cousin. And my case manager Sarah Ann Tay got so irritated she stood up in a huff and said "Your ways are very threatening you know? If you don't stop your hand gestures, I'll call the CISCO k?!".

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And when Judge Wong Keen Onn instructed him not to contact my family members, get involved with my famy, my uncle kept defying the orders and even drove my sister around in his car, the last seen around Family Court. Being together with my family exacerbates my relationship with them, because he would instruct them detail by detail to avoid me, to go against me, how to go against me, destructive behaviour destroying our happy relationship with my parents and sister.

--- He destroyed my maternal relationship, my parental relationship, and my sisterly-bond. He is a stealer.

*** When I first stepped into IMH, and screeching females could be heard from outside, he would turn to me and say "ah! You will be NEXT." when I was FIFTEEN. At a tender age, I was shocked and traumatised by his behaviour.

He would stalk my friendships and when I was 15, he forced me to reveal my Friendster password to him. And he would access my account and print out my profile for all to see. And humiliate me in front of my relatives.
He would call my friends and tell them rumours about me, making my Sec 3 life friendless and isolated.
Then he would pretend in front of me that he has spoken to so and so of my friend and the friend would say "argh! (shooing me off)" through my contacts which he would steal namecards from me, and my friends' number.

I had enough of him and I need him to be remanded.

* He has made me so frightful and frightened, made me manipulative, through his manipulation towards me, made me homeless, and made me naked. He has made me emotionally scarred at a young age.

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In fact my cousin and uncle are not genuinely caring for my wellbeing. My cousin would say: "Welcome to Changi Woman Prison" and my uncle would say "go to jail" instead of avoiding me to go there, they direct and point me there instead.:(

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When getting tied, Nurse Rafidah would say: "YES."

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Actually he allows me to go in to sleep. But just hand him the key. Which i don't want and cant.

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Most bizarre thing - witness in IMH

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January to February during Chinese New Year - Sent me to IMH - Seems that they doesn't change.

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When I was in Malaysia, I had to beg to get around because of my lack of money. So I figured out I would feel more comfortable being in my vicinity. My own hometown.
So I quickly joined a bus-mate to take a cab home. Hoping she would share the cost or pay for the fare.

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They have actually stifled me. There has been letters sent to me, government letters giving me money, but my parents didn't give it to me. When I was staying in all those care centres. They have access to all my letters and the letter mailbox but I don't even have basic access to my own mails.

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They want me to save money, to save for my future, but they constantly send me to hospital, steal away my things worth of money, how am I going to have enough or more money for savings and my future?

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They should be thinking: "Why did the parents let a young girl have no own home?".

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They shit INSIST I should go to hospital, when I enter that kind of hospital, do I have to work already? You are missing for a few days, no, for a few months, How Are You going to Answer your boss? Oh you've got an MC, why? Because you are sick? In which hospital? The MC has the IMH letterhead, what a disgrace! and unexplainable issue!

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My uncle always came to our house and remove our property often unannounced and uninvited.

Got complained online about being cheated by him for contractor.

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I have to seek shelter from Shelter homes from violence.

I mean, I can stay in my house! I can stay forever in my house, continue, and don't even have to buy a house or get a new flat. But can you go home to a violent father? An abusive dad? How to stay home like that?... Makes home life so torturous!

You should grant me a PPO, because there's also a Counselling component. Mandatory family counselling. To bring our family closer together.

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I would request that my uncle be seperate from my family.

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What is Criminal Misappropriation of Property

Criminal misappropriation takes place when the possession has been innocently come by, but where, by a subsequent change of intention, or the knowledge of new fact with which the party was not previously acquainted, the retaining becomes wrongful and fraudulent. A person commits criminal misappropriation, if he: Dishonestly misappropriates any property  Such property should be movable.  PUNISHMENT Whoever dishonestly misappropriates any movable property shall be punished with imprisonment, which may extend to two years, or fine, or with both.

However, in criminal misappropriation, the accused person initially comes across the property.  However, he will face criminal sanctions, if, after having come into possession of the property, the accused person subsequently forms a dishonest intention to deal with the property in a manner that is inconsistent with the rights of the true owner (for example by throwing it away).